Social Psychologist Roy Baumeister and John Tierney a New York Times Science writer have combined efforts to create a comprehensive study of the human resource known as WILLPOWER or self control – it is strength and wisdom.
This well written study has so many on target points and definitions that I can think of no one who would not benefit from reading and using the material in this book. I am just concerned that those of us who truly NEED to read and use the material in this book are too distracted.
I hereby make this book an assignment of required reading with a 3 page paper about how you used this information in your life and how you persuaded someone you know to also read this book and use the material within its pages.
Well, that will never happen but it is certainly worth a try!
“The good news is that while self-control is biologically rooted, we have the capacity to manipulate our nature. Willpower features personal stories from entrepreneurs, executives, artists and parents who have managed to do just that. People like David Blaine, Eric Clapton, Mary Karr, and Oprah Winfrey offer life-changing lessons in the exercise of self-control. Their experiences show that we can not only build willpower, but also conserve it for crucial moments by setting the right goals and using the best techniques for monitoring our progress. Once we establish the correct habits, willpower gets easier.”
Information Overload is definitely on our plates these days, and I believe we will be seeing many more of these books about self-control and how to organize and not waste our time and living.
We all have a willpower muscle. I know, lots of counselors, teachers and advisers told us we did not have to use willpower to guide us or direct us. For awhile it was just a matter of self-esteem and we distributed hugs, love pats, certificates, great grades, and praise by the bushel load to keep motivation at high levels. OOPS! We now know those things did not build our willpower and strength – they only contributed to our need to be exteriorly motivated.
Now we know, that to build our willpower we must process our accomplishments – doing the work, practicing and understanding what we do – the art of learning and thinking. It is another inside job; the muscle is not built up by exterior praise, it is built from self-control, discipline, and achievements.
One of the stunning pieces of information sharing was that the willpower system of our bodies is the same one for each process we are undertaking. So if you have used all your self-control at work or school all day, one needs to stop doing what they are doing and replenish their supply – refresh the muscle – before endeavoring onto another activity.
Here are some ways to built up your WILLPOWER Muscle and renew your strength:
- Understand how you body uses glucose and what is the best source of glucose for you
- “Preconditions” – have a list of what you are going to accomplish and then sticking to it when something depletes your reserve supplies. I do this by making a menu plan for the week, and preparing all the food for the week on one day; having the right sized plates and bowls – so I am not tempted to wander or binge
- Find a system/discipline which works for you and use it regularly – use this system to prioritize emails, time, meetings, and interactions – create flexible boundaries and have a plan B and plan C to draw upon.
- Find Gratitude and pleasure in your successes and accomplishments
- EXERCISE regularly – when you think you do not have time is when you need it the most.
- Know how you PROCRASTINATE and what are your cues and stimulus. Recognize DECISION FATIGUE -“People have a hard time giving up options even when the options are not doing them any good.”
I need to stop here, this book is 304 pages of easy to read and understand words about how to recognize the strengths of your willpower and how to use information and strengthen this muscle unit so it becomes one of your greatest assets.
Parents this is another skill that children need to learn. This book is about teaching children to have their greatest success and creativity.
I believe we will be seeing lots of books emerging in this area because we are a society right now without a great deal of self-control and we are easily distracted and by such inconsequential “Bling”.
I am so happy that TLC book tours and The Penguin Press asked me to read and share this book with you. I enjoyed it very much and as I like to try on and integrate the ideas from books, I thought this was another wise choice and I recommend it to you.
If you purchase anything from Amazon from this site, I will receive a few beans in my bucket.
Giveaway: of this book will happen on September 12,2011 and chosen by a drawing from the comments section of this post.
Do you have a book that inspires you to make change? Do you think it does a body good to strengthen your willpower? What is your greatest tool?