The Gifts of Imperfection ~by Brené Brown, Ph.D
On July 29,2010, I wrote a post entitled I HAVE FAILED. I received a number of wonder full comments, lots of sympathy and a tremendous number of emails. One such email was from Lisa Munley of TLC Book Tours and she said, “I think you might like this book, could I send it on for review?” I said yes send it to me, I will review it.
I opened the book and began reading and could not believe that here was a credentialed researcher and public person making the same point that I was embracing in my article on how to make change work in one’s living.
Dr. Brené Brown had even been on Oprah talking about how to live through making change and living a Wholehearted life.
What is a Wholehearted Life?
“Wholehearted living is about engaging in our lives from a place of worthiness. It means cultivating the courage, compassion and connection to wake up in the morning and think, No matter what gets done and how much is left undone, I am enough. It’s going to bed at night thinking, Yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable and sometimes afraid but that doesn’t change that truth that I am worthy of love and belonging. “
Format of the book is very clear and simple, I think it allows understanding to come into one step by step with very personalized stories of how to take on this process and make the changes one needs to make in their own life.
There is a terrific 50 page overview divided into sections to begin the book, and then one is presented with 10 Guidelines with exercises to help one integrate the ideas and concepts presented. I found this to be very powerful and definitely the way folks read these days.
I want to share a quote from each of the guidelines’ sections :
“It’s a practice-a conscious choice of how we want to live. Authenticity is a collection of choices that we have to make every day. It’s about the choice to show up and be real. The choice to be honest. The choice to let our true selves be seen.”
Self- Compassion – Letting go of Perfectionism
“Perfectionism is the belief that if we live perfect, look perfect, and act perfect, we can minimize or avoid the pain of blame, judgment, and shame. It’s a shield. Perfectionism is a twenty-ton shield that we lug around thinking it will protect us, when in fact; it’s the thing that’s really preventing us from taking flight.
…at its core, is about trying to earn approval and acceptance.”
A Resilient Spirit
“ When I interviewed the participants who I’d describe as living a Wholehearted life about the same topic, they consistently talked about trying to feel the feelings, staying mindful about numbing behaviors, and trying to lean into the discomfort of hard emotions.”
Gratitude and Joy
“When it comes to gratitude, the word that jumped out to me throughout this research process is practice.”
Intuition and Trusting Faith
“Intuition is not a single way of knowing – its’ our ability to hold space for uncertainty and our willingness to trust the many ways we’ve developed knowledge and insight, including instinct, experience, faith, and reason.”
“Unused creativity doesn’t just disappear. It lives within us until it’s expressed, neglected to death, or suffocated by resentment and fear.”
Play and Rest
“If we want to live a Wholehearted life, we have to become intentional about cultivating sleep and play and about letting go of exhaustion as a status symbol and productivity as self-worth.”
Calm and Stillness
“Stillness is about…..opening up an emotionally clutter-free space and allowing ourselves to feel and think and dream and question.”
From theologian Howard Thurman: “Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”
Laughter, Song and Dance
“Laughter, song, and dance create emotional and spiritual connection; they remind us of the one thing that truly matters when we are searching for comfort, celebration, inspiration, or healing: We are not alone.”
I can recommend this book; I believe it is well written and easy to understand and very important reading for people who would like to be free to change and become the best that they can be.
Needing More Information?
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This book review was sponsored by TLC Book Tours. To read more reviews of this book, one can find the full tour schedule online .
Now here is a sweet treat! If you write a comment you will be entered to win a copy of this book. There will be a random drawing and October 31, 2010 I will announce the winner on the November 1st post!