A Divine Listener
I consider myself an artist in the actions of change. I find it easy to change my mind or act because I have practiced my skills and acknowledged my values and emotions in each situation with finesse. I have created several charts which outline the basic steps of decision making and change. Some steps I can glide through and other times I need to stop and take stock – reconnoiter the situation and not just dive blindly.
Sometimes I just need to start over and try something new – refresh my style.
One of the primary components of making change is talking with other people. There are the familiar folks that you always talk over issues with, but I am talking about new voices. Some people are experts in their field and one needs to know their expertise so the conversation or interview can be part of your research towards making the right choice or decision.
I encourage all high school age and college bound folks to go and visit the career planning advisers, they have a wealth of ways to assist in making choices and discovering new paths. Some like to talk in their familiar ruts and some like to make the conversation an adventure. What is your style?
Many people write in a journal to have conversations with themselves, they even go back and color code certain words to assist in getting a clarity and perspective. They notice the repetitively used emotions and word descriptions; analyzing their value or hindrance.
If you want to get at the root cause of a problem that is constricting the change, one might hire a counselor to help dig out the road blocks, yield and stop signs being encountered.
Sometime one just needs to say the words right out loud and hear them – process the words through their auditory systems of analysis.
I recently was gifted with three sessions of a life coaching system practiced by Davina of Shades of Crimson. Davina uses active listening and one’s own words to move the thinking and expressing in new directions.
She calls it a Symbolic Modeling and in her own words:
During a Symbolic Modeling session I will repeat your words back to you in the exact manner you speak them, followed by a question. Repeating your words back to you lets you know you’ve been heard. As you hear the words reflected back to you, the knob turns. You begin to adjust your channel.
I found it to be playful, fun and a mind giggling experience. I have filled up a small spiral notebook with all the new images and words that come out of the session.
I have changed my mind.
I have a very clear image of what I will look like when I define myself as healthy now. I can feel the being stung by a bee or the chugging of the steam engine up the mountainous track that made my words anchors against the tide and flow.
It’s all in the chemistry of the synapses and when one can turn the knob or dial back the volume, what fun is that?
Davina is offering this exercise in listening up for the first 10 folks who will pay for the phone call. She has a bigger description and details on her site.
I would just like to say a Gigantic Thank you for the experience. It changed me. I came away from each phone call pleasantly surprised and more importantly SATISFIED – better than chocolate or a hot bath, and almost in the same league as a 90 minute massage.
It is a great process for rediscovery and truly hearing oneself think. I recommend it highly.
Has someone listening to you made a change for you? Do you think talking is a necessary step in the process of change? Have you felt satisfied after being heard? Do you think you might give this a try?
Please share your thoughts , I look forward to you comments