Book Review: The Science of Passion; The Art of Romance ~Ken Tanner
In the spring of 2009, I offered a writing contest about “How Did You Meet?”- the winner of that event was Ken Tanner.
During the summer of 2009, Ken had his book published and asked that I purchase a copy and review the book on this Blog, rather than he receive the cash award for his essay.
I have in my hands the copy of the book, and I read it aloud to my partner while we drove across the State a couple of weeks ago. The book is by a man and written for men and was well received by my man!
In Ken’s own words on the first page:
There are many books available to help those with struggling marriages. This is not one of them. This book is directed at husbands in middle age (like me) who are in solid marriages, yet seek to make them stronger. Perhaps the spark has been missing – the many pressures of kids, work, associates and friends have sapped the energy. How can you reignite that spark, and redirect that renewed energy toward the one person who means so much in your life?
There are 10 scenarios of the Art and the Science of strengthening a relationship. They are straight forward and do not take lots of assistance to figure out the different variables possible from each of the scenarios.
My partner’s first reaction was guilt. I was reading the book to him under the guise of doing a book review but he thought it was because he was falling short in this department of our relationship and he should take heed of the message.
To read the book only took an hour of our travel time. The discussion took up two hours of our time together and produced some very positive in depth conversation. We talked about his favorite anniversary dinner, which was for #15, and he planned and executed a lovely evening at a restaurant away from kids where a series of pearls were delivered with each course by the waiter. 15 new pearls were added that evening to the necklace which he presented me on our wedding night – lovely and thoughtful evening.
We talked about the worst anniversary dinner, where we were celebrating with another couple – our treat – and they refused to order dinner, shared a small salad and would not partake of any beverages except water and absolutely no dessert. The other couple had driven us around all day while they ran errands. We put the other couple’s behavior back onto them and had a great laugh about what a “strange” event it turned out to be.
Now I am not a very romantic person myself and the highest compliment someone can give me is to listen and respond to what I say or write. The book provided some of the best fore-play for our deepest communications and feelings that we have experienced in years. This fellow of mine has now actually read some of my blog posts and talked about them. Self propelled.
The icing on the cake was his conversation and pride about his romantic #15 with his youngest daughter and she kept responding, “Wow that was really, like really romantic Dad!”
We both concluded that this book would most likely get some bedroom action going too for most couples.
The book is now available on Amazon.com and is from Trafford Publishing. Davina of Writer Sense Communications worked on the Editing and Layouts.
Thank you Ken for writing a great common sense and interesting book, and I am hoping that many men will choose to read the book and find connections with their wives.