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And The Winner Is!


During the last 2 months patriciaswisdom has been running a writing contest entitled “How We Met” It took all 5 judges to break several ties and get a true winner because all of the submissions were just spectacular and delightful to read.

I think folks never get enough opportunity to share the story of how they met and became a couple.

Davina at Shades of Crimson and writersense who was editing Ken’s book The Science of Passion, The Art of Romance brought the contest to Ken’s attention. We are so glad you did Davina – Thank you

Ken’s book is at the Printers as we post.

Ken does not have a blog and he suggested that if you would wish to contact him try this email address: ken(dot)tanner(at)shaw(dot)ca

I could not dive into Ken’s About Page so asked him to share a brief biography so we could all get to know him better:

Short Biography: Ken has been married to Carol for 34 years. Careers in hi-technology business and university teaching respectively eventually gave way to semi-retirement out on the west coast – skiing, golf and hiking now taking up more time than work. Ken operates several small businesses on a part-time basis in Vancouver while Carol continues to teach part-time for Seneca College by distance education. Romance has always been Ken’s strong point – a personally fulfilling way of expressing love for the most important person in his life, and has resulted in his writing a book on romance within the mature, stable marriage. Daughter Allison is in third year at UBC studying Political Science, while son Gordon is married to Michelle – both of them chemical engineers in Fort McMurray Alberta.

Without further rambling let me present the winning and beautiful writing of Ken Tanner:

Random Chance or Devine Plan

Random chance or part of a divine plan? The mystery of falling in love makes us want to believe that the divine plan has brought us together, but the skeptic will argue that it is just random chance when we meet our lifelong partner.

As a new arrival to Queen’s university, Carol had enjoyed the previous year’s “first-year introduction” party at the nearby all-male military academy – so much so that she decided to crash it during her second year. Slipping with other similarly inclined girlfriends into one of the two dozen taxis hired by the academy to take female freshmen to the party, the sophomores successfully negotiated security at the academy entrance without challenge. Strategically positioning themselves in the lounge at the officer’s club so that interested prospects would feel comfortable to approach, the whole setup resembled a precision military mission: target – the newly arrived third year officer cadets from the west coast.

Leaving all our non-military friends (particularly the girlfriends) back out on the west coast, the obligatory transfer to the Kingston academy had been hard for the newly arrived third year cadets. Ken, like the others, needed to find a new set of liaisons to counter what surely would become a suffocating all-male enclave at the academy. The annual party with the first year women from Queen’s was a perfect setup – kind of like shooting ducks at a gallery – potential for lots of contacts but no kills likely. Well, Ken got killed.

Meandering at the start of the evening through the now throbbing masses of newly arrived cadets and eager “first year girls” from Queens, Ken noticed a charming redhead in a blue dress with white flowers leisurely relaxed on the corner couch – space available right beside her. Like an unwitting fish going for the bait, Ken introduced himself, sat down, and got hooked. Agenda? A glass of wine, dancing into the night, a walk along the waterfront, a requested ( and accepted) kiss, pizza at the local greasy joint, a stroll back to the women’s residence. Lastly, a request for a phone number at the residence reception desk.

As Carol turned to get pen and paper, the attack came out of nowhere. A woman, quite inebriated, raced across the foyer at reception and threw herself at Ken, kissing him passionately, hugging him, practically mauling him. Carol turned to witness this scene, Ken frantically attempting to disengage while blabbing something about this being a distant cousin. The requested phone number was reluctantly handed over, but Carol headed to the stairs convinced this was a total lost evening.

Ken’s later calls professing that this really was his cousin were not convincing, and requests for a follow-on date were declined. It was only three weeks later that Carol inadvertently found out that it really was Ken’s distant cousin who had, in a beer-induced haze, wrapped herself around him that evening at the residence.
Ken’s method for getting Carol back onside? Flamboyant self promotion. Elegant candlelight dinners out, fine wine, romantic dances at the officer’s club, formal evenings in gown and full military uniform, shameless romantic gestures. By Christmas, she was persuaded. Thirty five years later, she is still persuaded.

Random event or divine plan? Even God could not have planned this one…

17 Responses to “And The Winner Is!”

  1. Robin Says:

    What a lovely story! Thanks for bringing it to us, Patricia – and I feel envious of the “shameless romantic gestures”. Has Carol still got the blue dress?

    Robins last blog post..Sondra Ray – Rebirthing And Physical Immortality

  2. Patricia Says:

    You will need to email Ken at the above email to find out about the Blue Dress Robin, or maybe he has included it in his book:
    The Science of Passion, the Art of Romance which I am going to purchase in July and review here on the blog.

    Nice to see you first thing on my morning. Thank you for coming by and your nice comments.

    all the writing for this contest is lovely…3 more to go…

  3. Cricket-Tammy Says:

    Oh, Patricia thank you so much for sharing. These are heart felt words. Women can always describe things in such tiny detail. It is even better when you read the words written by a man that describes falling in love.

    You can tell that Ken is still in love today.

    Cricket-Tammys last blog post..A Ride on Big Bertha…The Unexpected Journey

  4. Patricia Says:

    And to think Ken has a whole book coming out in July about romance – I think you are right Tammy, he is still in love today!

    All the stories are really something, I hope you will chose to read all 4 of them

  5. Mark Says:

    Congats to Ken! Thanks for sharing this well written and wonderful story!

    Marks last blog post..The Magic Grocer

  6. Patricia Says:

    I think the best part is all the folks coming by for a read! Thank YOU

  7. Patricia Says:

    A day for beautiful writing and I hope folks will come over and read your magical post for today also.
    Thank you for coming by Mark and making a comment, your words are appreciated

  8. Davina Says:

    Hi Patricia and congratulations Ken!

    Thanks for sharing about Ken’s book. That is an added bonus for sure.

    I had to laugh out loud when I read Ken’s story — “Well, Ken got killed” did it for me. I enjoyed all the entries, but the laugh was the tie-breaker for me, as was the question to the reader at the end.

    I can vouch for the romantic in Ken after reading his book. Ten chapters of tips and hints that he’s come up with over many years of marriage. I didn’t know men like that still existed :-)

    And Robin’s got me wondering if Carol does still have THAT dress.

    Davinas last blog post..Mindful Melancholy

  9. Patricia Says:

    We should ask Ken about Carol’s dress, and get him over here to answer questions? like that

    Thank you for your non-judgmental comments oh great and wonderful tie breaker #2

    This was fun

  10. Ken Says:

    The dress is no more. I can only hope it found it’s way to another charming girl, who perhaps used it to its full potential a a second time around.

    Thanks for all the enjoyment I had participating in this Patricia. Only one comment – spelling of Devine in the title of your blog should be “divine”. As in ” Patricia is divine……”.

    Looking forward to the next competitions and seeing everyone’s submissions.


  11. patricia Says:

    This has been a fun experience and I hope you are enjoying the ride?
    Now everyone knows about the dress – Thank you

    Because I do not do my own IT work sometimes there is an error or two in translation or the same word 2x in a row, or a word left off a sentence. Or my IT person is too stressed to edit as she is editing her graduate school work….I try to just go with the flow!

    Thank you for letting me know….you have a gift with flattery too I see :)

  12. Liara Covert Says:

    Congratulations on teh acoomplishment of the finnished book. Writing itself is a journey and the editing process is full of wake-up calls. Thanks Ken, for choosing to share this meaningful story.

    Liara Coverts last blog post..Awaken from the dream of unreality

  13. Patricia Says:

    Thank you for coming by Liara,
    Ken did do such a nice job.

  14. Jannie Funster Says:

    Wonderful!! And so funny.

    35 years is a gorgeous milestone.

    Jannie Funsters last blog post..Another chance!

  15. Patricia Says:

    And to think Ken has a whole book about the romance in marriage coming out in July – I am going to review it here

  16. Davina Says:

    Ah, so now we know about that dress. The curiosity can rest… or can it? Who has the dress now? Is it sadly hidden in the back of someone’s closet? Or worn so much it had to be retired? Or, or, or… :-)

    Davinas last blog post..Mindful Melancholy

  17. Patricia Says:

    Made me laugh and think “if only the dress could talk!”

    Patricias last blog post..How We Met Entry #3