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I no longer leap out of bed, throw on my workout clothing, and dive into my workout routine. Since I tore a ligament holding digestive organs in place during the winter, I find myself easing on into the day.

Every morning I experience a hesitation about getting out of bed.

It is 5 months later and the weather is no excuse most days.

4:35 am would find me pulling on gear and tying my sneakers, working my routine towards heading out the door to the gym. The time moved to 5:30, to now I am getting up fairly close to the hour of seven.

I spent several months sleeping in a chair and not able even to do my swim as the chlorine irritated my internal organs and made digestion painful. I could not raise my left arm over my head. Slowly walking, like an old dog, was my only workout.

So now I have a sense of hesitation emerging into my morning glory, into every aspect of my morning. The point of hesitation has become my newest routine and it extends into turning on the computer, making my breakfast, or even planning my day.

Correction Time! I must nip this hesitation in the bud, overcome it, because it is taking away from my best efforts and form – it is now so pervasive it is squeezing the day. I am uncomfortable.

Here is my best list for overcoming Hesitation:

  1. JUST DO IT. Goethe said it way before NIKE, but it is still the best way I know and if one is in progress towards action it just stops the hesitation in its tracks.
  2. Thank yourself when the task is completed. Gratitude adds the enduring glue to the process and provides positive reinforcement to give hesitation the boot.
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After having something change my routine so completely and be such a miserable experience, I also find myself being hesitant about being PATIENT with myself about getting back into shape. Patience is a virtue I need to continually work on and I am not very patient with myself.

So do you suffer with Hesitation and/or Lack of Patience? What is your list of corrections?

There is a PAT in patience and a HE SIT in hesitation – did you see that?
I’ll get back to you on how the bud nipping is going!

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20 Responses to “Hesitation”

  1. Positively Present Says:

    I think “JUST DO IT!” is the best. If you don’t give yourself time to overthink and analyze (and rationalize!!) then you’ll have a much better chance of getting “it” done.

    Positively Presents last blog post..things to make (other than money)

  2. JD Says:

    I find the key is decide and go.

    For some things, I make sure I don’t think or analyze them. I decide up front. I then create a glide path and reduce friction wherever I can to make it easier to fall into success rather than fall out.

    JDs last blog post..Top 10 Lessons Learned in Interpersonal Skills

  3. patricia Says:

    Positively Present,
    I am about a week into Just Do it and the hesitation is falling away and I even made it up the hill with no stopping today. The sunshine does assist the process.

    I have just being Doing It and putting out my clothing the night before and I like the idea that that is “a glide path” to “reduce the friction”. Good ways to think about it.

    Thanks guys! I needed those comments :)

  4. Vered - MomGrind Says:

    I’m a big believer in Just Do It… and to answer your question, I have a very impatient nature. It’s one of my worst qualities.

    Vered – MomGrinds last blog post..A Rose Garden

  5. Dot Says:

    Yes, I suffer from both hesitation and lack of patience. I also have a problem with consistency, since my plans are often interrupted by illness. What I find most useful is to make something a routine. Routines like brushing our teeth are so helpful because we do them without thinking.

    I use JD’s approach of smoothing away all the obstacles, too. I try to think of something positive when I first wake up, and tell myself that I always feel better after I get up. That may not be the case for you, but for me, the sedentary nature of sleep means I have to get moving to get rid of some of the pain.

    Dots last blog post..The Joys of Alcohol and Other Fallacies

  6. Mark Says:

    There is a great opening scene in Wayne Dyer’s movie Ambition to Meaning where he is lying in bed asleep, he awakens and swings his feet to the floor and sits there for a moment and says “Thank-you, Thank-you”. He is expressing gratitude for all that has been, all that is and all that will be. Gratitude is a wonderful way to move through the hesitation.

    Marks last blog post..None Of My Business

  7. Patricia Says:

    Me too, though I have to admit I sometimes get myself into big trouble.

    I believe I can emphasize with you on the moving after sleep – the pain and stiffness is restricting, but oh my life is better after you get moving.

    I am fairly close to singing the Hallelujah Chorus after the months of waking up from a chair and pain. Nothing beats gratitude! Thank your for the good referral too!

  8. Tess The Bold Life Says:

    Be gentle on with yourself. Think of it as “I have the rest of my life to get back into shape.” Go slowly and take small steps. That’s what works for me.

    Louise Hay says she says thank you the minute she opens her eyes. I think Wayne learned from her just like Nike learned from Goethe!

    Tess The Bold Lifes last blog post..Mondays = 1/7 of Your Life

  9. Patricia Says:

    What good words – Louise Hay is so smart! The medical intuitive I have been working with has cut my exercise routine in 1/2 and it is truly helping, but this little habit of hesitation needs removal…I will work on the 6 weeks plan to change a habit!

  10. janice Says:

    I’m not an impatient person at all; I have a different kind of problem, though, which is that I tend to overthink things and get overwhelmed. I’ve learned, as you say, to just do it, but in very, very small steps in some situations. (I use a lot of kaizen work in my coaching, especially with ‘stuck’ creatives.) I’ve also lowered my ‘proud of myself’ and happiness defaults to correspond better with how much mental resistance I have to overcome to take even the tiniest of steps towards something I want to achieve. The smallest of things makes me grateful and happy, and every achievement, no matter how small, deserves praise.

    PS I hope you have a wonderful time in Scotland!

    janices last blog post..Re-invention 101 and a Special Book Launch Giveaway

  11. Liara Covert Says:

    Patricia, you invite readers to remember doing nothing or slowing down is a meaningful choice. So often, people convince the self they have reason to feel guilty if they are not “doing.” I have a young friend who is recovering from cancer. She views the experience as a blessing in disguise because she is elarning not only to view the positive in every situation, but because she finally gives herself the okay to rediscover what it means to just be.

    Liara Coverts last blog post..5 Ways to strengthen self-worth

  12. patricia Says:

    Welcome and thank you for your good comments. I think I have your problem too! I keep over thinking the packing of my suitcase and getting to excited! Step by Step yes! but I want to be able to be healthy and able to enjoy Scotland and walking with energy…I know I will have a great time, because once I get there I will just BE there. Gratitude is so important

    Thank you for your comment…I am even practicing walking around in in trip…to get back into shape….I have 7 weeks to go, and I am letting my just BEING slip past me in my hesitation and driving to get in shape. Good reminders

  13. UrbanPanther Says:

    My mother, who has been go go go all her life, is finding herself forced to slow down, due to a serious illness in the Spring. I feel her frustration in each of her emails. But by god, that woman does not slow down. I’m exhausted just reading what she accomplishes each day, despite her restrictions. She just does it. And when she is tired, regardless of what time it is, she stops and takes the rest of the day off. So, while I know she would love to be doing more, she is living life while acknowledging that she needs to give her body time to heal as well. It’s a fine balance.

    UrbanPanthers last blog post..Embarrassed by my fellow females

  14. Patricia Says:

    Urban Panther,
    A very fine balance in deed. I am not having good patience with the exhaustion that keeps coming on – today it is expressing in an attempted migraine headache…aargh!

  15. Davina Says:

    Hi Patricia. There is a big difference between Doing and Being. They can support each other quite nicely if you connect with “who you are being” while you are doing — that will show you why you are doing what you are doing. What is in it for you.

    An exercise that might be fun for you to try is to step outside of the picture you have of yourself right now; the premise that we can’t solve a “problem” with the same mindset that created it…

    Imagine that you have accomplished your goal. You are in the shape you want to be in. How does that feel? What impact has it had on your life? What did you do to get there?

    And then, turn around and look back at where you came from. What do you notice about that person back there? What would you tell her to help her get to where you are now?

    Davinas last blog post..Positively Breathing — Affirmation 4

  16. Kathy | Virtual Impax Says:


    Ah, you’ve struck a familiar chord with me. Patience is a virtue I struggle with often – especially when it comes to the fragile human form which houses my soul.

    I find that – for me – both hesitation AND lack of patience both have their roots in fear.

    I too am struggling to regain a level of fitness I once enjoyed. I find myself battling fear every step of the way.

    When I put in the work out tape that I used to do easily – and now I can’t – it took me a while to figure out that I was (am) afraid that I might not ACHIEVE that level of fitness again.

    I have to remind myself that fitness is a journey and not a destination. When I look at it that way – it helps me to remember that even if I achieve a similar level of fitness that I attained a decade ago – I still will be 10 years older this time. That “place” won’t look the same because it’s not the same.

    Every step I take is a step either in the RIGHT direction or the WRONG direction. SKipping my morning walk this morning was definitely a step in the WRONG direction.

    Fortunately, there’s always tomorrow …

    Kathy | Virtual Impaxs last blog post..Blogs and the Art of Deception

  17. Jannie Funster Says:

    Yes, I am quite impatient. And I can’t wait until I stop being that way!

    Lately my head wakes up groggy and I fear I’m getting a migraine but it’s just a big old head full of allergies. And luckily no pounding pain comes.

    In fact, I should be in bed now.

    Drifting off to sweet sweet dreams.

    And a walk of an old dog is better than no walk at all.

    Jannie Funsters last blog post..Bord on a wire, 9 & 10 1/2

  18. Patricia Says:

    I followed your advice this morning on the walk – and you inspired my post for June 10th – I think it will make you chuckle outloud!

    I am just discussed that I allowed myself to feel the hesitation for so long that it is entrenched as a habit. Having the sunshine come out for several days in a row is helping. Thank you for coming on by and I surely learned a lot from your writing yesterday.

    I try to keep the phrase 30 minutes of something is better than 30 minutes of nothing – meditation exempt!

    Patricias last blog post..Blogger Dad – Blame Tara Meme

  19. cindy platt Says:

    I have the patience of a saint with everyone but myself. Hesitation has crept up on me as I try to reinvent myself in the virtual world from the classroom. The “www.com” world is so vast and fast moving I feel like I am trying to jump in and skip rope, but the girls are turning the rope too fast. Sean tells me munchable chunks, make a list and enjoy every moment because these are the good ole days on their way to greatness.

    cindy platts last blog post..You are a Writer

  20. patricia Says:

    So nice to find your comment this morning, thank you for coming by.
    Yes, yes, yes this blog world moves so quickly and Most days about 2:30 in the afternoon I feel that jump rope sensation.
    Sean’s right, because I look back on this year and it just gets better and better and the early days are just stepping stones.

    I am trying to tell myself there must be some reason my body needs these extra pounds right now….Patience with myself – oh where or where could that be?