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Sunday Dinner

It is March 1, 2009 and that is a big day in our household because we have 24 roses. This year it fell on a Sunday so we did not have to change only adapt our plans to execute the day.

A master gardener told us that we should not study our roses to decide when to prune and hard prune, but that in our part of the world we should go by the calendar for rose care. March 1 and November are the two big moments in our rosy world – hard prune, prune and pack the root ball. We have stuck to the calendar, the advice and have been blessed with a great deal of beauty and very few pests or mildew.

It was cloudy and not raining. We forego our big cozy breakfast feast to don gear and get out to the task. The rain does not hold off and 4 hours later my guy comes inside – task completed, dripping wet, soaked through and heading for the showers and then to work at the office.

I am thinking about my Sunday routines when I was a child and how different they are now. All morning church in our very best dress – suit and tie even for the younger boys, home to a huge dinner prepared by my Mother and the girls who were available (after changing out of our good clothes) and then newspaper reading for my parents before last minute schoolwork preparations and reading for the kids (home work except projects had to be completed before Sunday).

Never would my parents have considered it appropriate to work so hard in the garden or to go back to work on a Sunday.

Life keeps making changes.

As our children were growing we went to church on Sunday evening. Sunday was quite often the only day Dad was home, there was lots of homework getting done that needed assistance and then too, the kids helped remodel the house so there might be the fun of knocking down a wall , painting, laying flooring, tending the garden , or felling a rotten tree. It was the day when everyone was home and there was high energy in every nook and cranny.

Early on, I started doing all the cooking for the week on Sunday. All the Gluten Free baking was the activity for Tuesday. We would pick a menu based on what we had growing or in the freezer and a fish meal, casserole, soup and salad would emerge to cover all the lunches and dinners for the week ahead.

It was a lovely time for a kiddo to wander into the kitchen and have a serious conversation, share something about what was going on or even bake the cookies for lunches. They knew where to find me or how to avoid me on Sundays!

The kitchen smelled lovely today – chicken, rice and broccoli casserole then brownies all incorporated in the oven and providing the dimension. The windless rain keeping everything damp and quiet while the pruning proceeds, and now my guy is fed and off to the office for about 6 hours of work and preparation. It takes a great deal of time to keep 12 families sheltered, fed and hopeful – moving forward.

I decided to enjoy the day here with you on this post and not venture out into the rain. The kiddos have called to checked in – there is still one on the road back to Michigan, I wonder how she is doing and think “No news is good news.”

The roses brought us home for the day – though now we are scattered.

I think everyone is working on pruning in their lives right now – it is a good thing as it cuts down on the pests and can make for extraordinary blossoms. Those blossoms in turn call out to the bees and the cycle goes on. This Sunday a day of thankful grace….

How has your Sunday routine changed? What do you cook on Sundays? And do you prune?

24 Responses to “Sunday Dinner”

  1. Betsy Wuebker Says:

    “I think everyone is working on pruning in their lives right now – it is a good thing as it cuts down on the pests and can make for extraordinary blossoms. Those blossoms in turn call out to the bees and the cycle goes on. This Sunday a day of thankful grace….”

    This is so poetic, Patricia! Lovely!

    How I envy your roses when it is 5 degrees here and snow blankets my own. We have the Minnesota tip-up method, where we dig the canes up, lay them on their side and nestle them in a comforter of mulch to guard against the cold. I generally wrap my tripod support in chicken wire and fill it with leaves – seems to be the kind of coat they like to wear.

    So, our lives are buffered right now from the cold. Our pruning will begin with the awakening, which will be soon. Our house is freshly painted and we will clean in anticipation of spring.

    Thanks for a wonderful, grounding post.

    Betsy Wuebkers last blog post..NETBOOKS – LESS IS MORE THESE DAYS

  2. Cath Lawson Says:

    Hi Patricia – I tried to comment on this in my reader but it’s broken, so I had to come back.

    It sounds like you have lovely Sunday dinners in your house. We don’t have them as often as we’d like anymore – but it’s great when we do.

    I guess everyone is pruning their lives right now. I love that it’s getting close to Spring – people seem more hopeful when it gets closer.

  3. Jannie Funster Says:

    Sunday is not what I wish it would be, as this remodel keeps on and on. And on.

    No more whining now, Jannie!

    “They knew where to find me or how to avoid me on Sundays!” Love the second part of that.

    Enjoy your roses.

    Jannie Funsters last blog post..Why?

  4. Patricia Says:

    Betsy,
    It snowed last Thursday morning and I don’t know if we will be more or not, but we were just advised to do roses by the calendar in this part of the country by some one who knew what he was doing….We started out with 2 roses as wedding presents, then one for each child…then my father-in-law died and a number came to our yard….The a rose came for teaching Sunday school for 11 years as a volunteer….Now the deer think they are the best restaurant in town….along with the beans and the pumpkins…I just grown accustomed to them and their beauty.

    Rose at the top is called Cherish…no longer propagated…was a gift to daughter #2 on the day of her birth….If I try to pick a bloom for a vase all the petals fall off…I took this picture – the rose is the poetry.

    Cath,
    Thank you for working your way back. We don’t really have Sunday dinners any more….but I still do the weeks worth of cooking on Sunday….Old habits die hard…and I like the smells. So I was grounding myself by romancing and dancing with the good old days.

    Jannie,
    The roses need heat….not here yet, but lots of crocus and primula in bloom right now….I thought roses too fussy, but now they have collected lots of stories and I enjoy them more…they are a lot of work…

    Yep, the kids know where to find me on Sundays even now…I usually can expect a call from each of them….sometimes that is the only time all week. One called yesterday to say she was still doing homework so could not visit…we talked for an hour!..
    Well, I talked she listens and adds her 2cents worth…

  5. Sara Says:

    Patricia,

    My stomach actually growled when I read your post and got to part about the cooking. It reminded me that I haven’t eaten lunch yet and it’s 3:00 in the afternoon.

    I loved how you moved from the roses to the changes in your life. I agree that sometimes we do need to prune our lives of things that are no longer useful or helpful to us. We have to create our own life garden and then take good care of it.

    Regarding Sunday, like you, I remember a time of morning church and noon Sunday meals that made me sick because I ate so much. Now that my kids are out of the house and on their own, I must confess I’m more likely to read the paper in bed while having tea late into the day! As you said, Life keeps making changes :~)

    Saras last blog post..Is the term Lurkers a bad word?

  6. Patricia Says:

    Sara,
    I truly am rather glad that life is always changing. I also gave away 2 boxes of books to a coffee and used book sale fundraiser for the church….that is how I went to church this weekend….Have a totally free bookshelf in my office now feels like a weight has been lifted off and we are open for possibility…

  7. Jocelyn of I TAKE OFF THE MASK Says:

    Thanks for sharing your day! It’s like I’m there with you at that time, enjoying such a nice Sunday with a warm and happy family. :)

  8. Patricia Says:

    Jocelyn,
    Thank you that was a lovely compliment…Everyday is good – Sunday was lovely.

  9. Liara Covert Says:

    Nothing quite like reconnecting with nature. It soothes th soul and awakens parts of being that have been dormant too long.

    Liara Coverts last blog post..What is the universe telling you?

  10. Patricia Says:

    Liara,
    Just like Spring! Thank you

  11. Patricia Says:

    Liara,
    I still am unable to post a comment on your site..sorry I keep trying

  12. Vered - MomGrind Says:

    You write so beautifully, Patricia. I felt like I was right there in your kitchen with you.

  13. Ribbon Says:

    Hello
    That was awesome!
    You triggered my senses with delights.
    Your roses smell beautiful and the dinner was delicious.

    Thank you
    Best wishes

    PS would you like more children at your table :-)

  14. Mama Zen Says:

    This is such a peaceful, lovely post!

    Mama Zens last blog post..Here Come The Clowns!

  15. Cricket-Tammy Says:

    Hey there sweetie,

    I have not been a loyal friend. I am so sorry. I have had some turbulent waters come about. My mom was just diagnosed with lung cancer and I have not been able to function mentally. I have decided to “prune” away at my own pity and get moving.

    I needed to read something like this. You know I am a avid gardener. I just finished moving my grandmothers remaining plants/roses, etc. to my garden. 60+ of them. It has taken me some years but I am officially finished.

    Oh, I am getting carried away with my own life on your blog. This post has opened up my mind.

    I also went to Church on Sunday nights. We did not chores or work on Sunday. It was always the day of rest. I loved it.

    Now, I try to do the same with my children. I do cook a huge Sunday lunch and we try to stay low.

    Ah…..yes I prune and I love it.

    Hugs to you.

    Cricket-Tammys last blog post..I Understand Mom

  16. Dot Says:

    Sounds like a great day!

    In my parents’ house, Sundays meant my mother slept late because of her undiagnozed problems, probably an autoimmune diseaes. My Dad went to work seven days a week. Sundays were always a gloomy day. Either we children were forced to go to whatever church my mother thought we should try (she and my Dad didn’t go to any), or Mom would cook a big dinner, even though she knew Dad nevre came home for dinner. Then she’d have a fit because he came home too late for dinner. Repeat the following Sunady.

    Now my Sunday is sitting around in my flannel pj’s with the capuccino cup and coffee bean print, drinking coffee, possibly eating a bagel with lox cream cheese, reading or watching TV.

    Dots last blog post..Akashic Records Reading, Part 2

  17. Mark Says:

    Thank-you for sharing your Sunday! Sound delicious. When I was a child, Sunday dinner was a 1:00 and it was almost always roast beef, mashed potatoes and whatever vegetable was in season. There was also always a cake or pie for dessert.
    Sunday’s for me today vary, however often times we will have friends and family over for a big dinner. I usually go to the grocery store on Sunday morning and much of the day is spent cleaning and or doing yard work.

    Marks last blog post..Take a Look At The Means To The End

  18. patricia Says:

    Vered,
    Thank you, It just felt like a beautiful day and the good smells just brought back so many thoughts and ideas.

    Mama Zen,
    Thank you for coming by and I am glad you enjoyed it – the day felt peaceful.

    Dot,
    My growing up Sundays were very rigid – it was nice to have a routine but it was inflexible – now I find myself enjoying the routine but having freed myself from the rigidity and rules.
    My dad was off saving the world all the time, so we were not to disturb him on his day to relax when he was home.

    Mark,
    I like that the kiddos check in nearly every Sunday and that in the Spring and Summer my husband is home and able to spend time in the garden…our date of the week! In the winter we go to the gym together at 5am as our date…
    We had roast beef, baked potatoes and veggie – almost always frozen strawberries and ice cream for dessert unless there was company coming and then pie – cake (Like bar cookies were part of the weekly fare.

  19. patricia Says:

    Ribbon,
    Sorry I am late to the table, but your comment got caught in moderation.

    I think it was the lovely smells that created the post….

    There were always lots and lots of children at my table over the years….we hosted a lot of friends at meal times….and that was good, because I knew where my kids were and what they were doing.

    Most of the friends liked my cooking better than my kids! I liked all the good conversation….are you sending some my way?

  20. patricia Says:

    Cricket – Tammy,
    You are a great friend and I know that you were doing inner work you needed to do – and that is important too.
    I will add your Mother to my healing prayer heart, if that is all right for you.

    I am having a bit of a problem with moderation of comments today – sorry I am late to your comment.

    Pruning feels very good, whether it is apple trees, roses, books, things…..I get lost in it when I get started…

    I think it truly was the lovely smells that created this post…
    I will have to try that inspiration again. 😉

  21. Jannie Funster Says:

    I am very surprised the rose bush Kelly and I planted 4 years ago has thrived. Just took a chance and got lucky.

    Jannie Funsters last blog post..So there!

  22. Patricia Says:

    Jannie,
    It was meant to be…Mine were all gifts and I had no idea how to care for them…I think it is better good luck than good fortune!

  23. Kim Woodbridge Says:

    This post made me feel hungry too. I guess our Sundays were structured when I was kind with church and a big meal later in the day. Like Dot – it was a little tense. It was usually the only day my Dad didn’t work and my Mom wanted him to do stuff around the house while he wanted to do nothing and watch sports.

    I don’t have a Sunday ritual – it all depends on whether my daughter is with me and what the weather is like.

    Kim Woodbridges last blog post..Eating and Drinking With WordPress Plugins

  24. Patricia Says:

    Hello Kim and thank you for stopping by,
    I think rituals need changing, but I still like the little routines that add grounding our lives.

    I think all Sundays or Mondays can be tense days…they are just most consistently days off for many people