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IT TAKES ONE TO TANGO: How I Rescued My Marriage With (Almost) No Help From My Spouse—and How You Can, Too ~ Winifred Reilly, MA, MFT

Friday, August 11th, 2017

IT TAKES ONE TO TANGO is a wonderful read and I had a hard time putting it down.  I have been to marriage therapy several times with my partner and it was always so disappointing because he would not make any changes and just found it an excuse to demand that I do all the work and announce he wasn’t going to cooperate.   This was just not acceptable and I did not enjoy being attacked verbally when we were paying for the session.

Then I took Nonviolent Communications workshops with Dr. Marshal Rosenberg and I found out that I could make lots of changes just through my own efforts and energies; processing my thinking and actions alone could change the dynamics with my partner and my children.   I started working on myself.  It was good work, it was not easy and it was so worth it.

IT TAKES ONE TO TANGO, moves this theory forward and makes the hard work of marriage something that one person can tackle and promote change and success.  This is not a workbook for those folks suffering with physical abuse, rather it is for those couples who are caught up in those circular arguments that never find resolution and make a marriage wearing and the partners wanting to call it quits.   This is even for those folks who may think their marriage is hopeless.

“Feel like you live on the verge of ripping your partner’s head off and shoving it down the neck hole? It Takes One to Tango is for you. Author Winifred Reilly not only explains why marriage is so predictably frustrating, but more important she reveals how you can turn the tide without your spouse’s help or even consent. Using her own marriage as a litmus test, Reilly offers a pragmatic alternative to subjecting an unwilling participant to years of pricey, unproductive marriage therapy or talking yourself blue in the face.” — Jenna McCarthy, author of If It Was Easy They’d Call the Whole Damn Thing a Honeymoon”

Marriage is very hard work and takes a great deal of energy.  Families need good communication skills and adults that are not fighting all the time.  IT TAKES ONE TO TANGO can break the tough routines and allow a marriage to become vibrant and flourish.   It is not about creating the perfect marriage.  It is about change and finding the love again. I cannot highly recommend this book enough; I am sharing it with my book groups.  It is such a pleasant read and very satisfying for the DIY enthusiasts.

I did like very much that Reilly uses her own marriage, which has survived 40+ years and her own work as part of the process she shares.  We don’t truly want perfect marriages – we want alive and healthy marriages!

TLC Booktours, sent me a copy of IT TAKES ONE TO TANGO for review – Fabulous read!    Thank you.

About Winifred Reilly

Winifred M. Reilly is a marriage and family therapist, with a private practice in Berkeley, CA.  She has been committed to helping couples and individuals build strong, loving relationships for more than 35 years. Winifred is the author of the relationship advice blog Speaking of Marriage, and her work has appeared in The Good Men Project, xoJane, and The Huffington Post.

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NOTE TO SELF: A Seven-Step Path to Gratitude and Growth ~Laurie Buchanan, PhD

Monday, April 24th, 2017

NOTE TO SELF is the book I chose to begin the year 2017.  I have a consistent habit for the last 24 years of choosing a book that will facilitate self-realization and change within myself.  I also added the revised edition of THE BIOLOGY OF BELIEF by Dr. Bruce Lipton to my studies, and procured a new spiral notebook; setting aside a time each day for this activity.  The timing must have been just right, as though I was one of the three bears or Goldilocks, and this has proven to be a superior combination of study materials and activity for me.  I have successfully made some changes that I have been longing for during the past three months.  I hope my words will be an inspiration for others to find this book for your future self to enjoy.

“The baggage we carry on life’s journey is tied to a specific self, its core characteristic, an associated wellness, and a shadow side.  These include:

  1. Self-preservation, survival, physical wellness, and self-destruction
  2. Self-gratification, pleasure, occupational wellness, and self-denial
  3. Self-definition, personal power, social wellness, and self-importance
  4. Self-acceptance, love, emotional wellness, and self-rejection
  5. Self-expression, creativity, environmental wellness, and self-repression
  6. Self-reflection, intuition, intellectual wellness, and self-absorption
  7. Self-knowledge, divine connection, spiritual wellness, and self-unawareness

“As a holistic health practitioner and transformational life coach, I work with a wide range of clients – from young children to seniors and every age in between.  My specific areas of focus are energy medicine, inner alchemy (personal transformation), and spiritual awareness. “  Laurie’s opening words.

Buchanan is a minimalist in her life and in her expressions and writing.  Extremely positive with major portions of reality and optimism; research is surrounded with anecdotal stories which combine to form opportunity to take another step and then another.  The explanations are clear with no mask of poetic confusion.  All this with appropriate quotes found in the right places. There are lots of whimsical moments that are guaranteed to bring release. The end of the book is marked by the inclusion of 365 questions to send you to your journal and pinpoint one’s thinking for a whole year of focus.

“Each ‘key’ chapter includes ten sections:

  • Mind-Body Connection
  • Color Therapy
  • Diet
  • Aromatherapy
  • Affirmations
  • The Business of Being
  • Breathwork
  • Wellness Inventory and Vitality Check
  • Action Steps
  • Personal energy Signature”

After finishing one segment I literally saw orange everywhere I looked and it gave me an insight into the South African woman who previously owed my house who was a gardener at heart.

“Creativity is more than the capacity to be inventive or innovative.  It’s more than the ability to create great works of art, music, or dance.  Creativity is an inherent tool that’s needed for wellness.”

What is your mission?  How do you love yourself?  Have you outgrown the old rules that you adhere to?  Where do you feel powerful?  What is your favorite moment of joy?  What are you holding on and carrying with you?

I have followed Laurie Buchanan on her Blog – Tuesdays With Laurie www.tuesdayswithlaurie.com for a number of years, and Laurie is the most faithful commenter on my blog reviews.  I admire her spunk, guidance, and joy filled attitude.   I highly recommend this book to all – NOTE TO SELF.

Laurie Buchanan Facebook

“While we are all passengers on a planet called Earth, we can choose to enhance the way in which we travel-emotionally, spiritually, intellectually, and physically.  In fact, we can, through the pages of this book, discover new ways to travel that are lighter, more fluid, and life-enhancing.  The author, a wise and dedicated traveler, is also the right kind of guide – caring, inspiring, uplifting, knowledgeable – for your journey of self-discovery.  I recommend this tremendous book to anyone seeking the companionship of good energy and joyful presence.”
-D.A. Hickman, author of THE SILENCE OF MORNING: A Memoir of Time Undone.

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THE ART OF CALM: Photographs and Wisdom to Balance Your Life ~ Rebecca Ascher-Walsh

Wednesday, April 20th, 2016

Just in time for Mother’s Day TLC Book Tours  and National Geographic Society Books sent me THE ART OF CALM for review.  It is absolutely beautiful and would make a lovely gift for the women in your life, and how about just for you?

Rebecca Ascher-Walsh has chosen stunning photographs to accompany each page of her writing wisdoms.  There are lovely quotes from famous women about finding the calm in one’s life, and there are even recipes for special treats and delightful bath soakers.    My absolute favorite parts of the book are the wee exercises that change the mind in a matter of moments and truly bring on the calm and the centering that pulls one back from an unpleasant trajectory.

I learned later in life to start each day with a poem, which allowed me to set my pace in a more thoughtful, positive direction.  This little gem would do that too.  Small enough to keep in the car, a little read before car pool, a deep breath and a picture study when the kids are fighting, or just the right touch before falling asleep THE ART OF CALM is a delight and 5 minutes of peace.

I highly recommend THE ART OF CALM as a lovely gift, for busy women even for one’s self.  A fabulous thank – you gift for someone who did something special.

“Rebecca Ascher-Walsh is a New York-based journalist who has written for outlets including Entertainment Weekly, the Los Angeles Times, the Wall Street Journal, and the Huffington Post.  The author of Devoted and founder of the Deja Foundation, she lives with her husband, twin daughters, and beloved rescue dog, Buddy.” (Cover)

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A SHORT PATH TO CHANGE: 30 Ways to Transform Your Life ~Jenny Mannion

Monday, April 4th, 2016

“The purpose of this book is to help you discover your own inner power for healing aspects of your own life.  Remember, we are all self-healing creatures.”

I have been reading and following Jenny Mannion’s blog posts for many years now.  I was very excited to hear that her book was to be published.  When you purchase her new book, you will receive a free 30-minute consultation.  I received a free consultation with Jenny years ago, when my knee became inflamed and she did a healing treatment over the phone which fixed the problem and reduced the swelling dramatically.  Pain relief and I subscribed to her blog.

When SHORT PATH, was published, I offered to review the book on my blog and Jenny sent me an e-galley copy.  I was doing a Detox Diet at the time and just incorporated the 30 exercises in SHORT PATH into my new routine and it became quite a wonder-full experience and healing for me.

The exercises were easy to follow and I enjoyed the additional suggestion to add the results into my journal writing.  I challenged myself to add getting my walk back to 2 miles everyday along with the detox diet and doing Mannion’s exercises.  It became 40 days of change and release for me.  I found the “let go”, forgiveness, and releasing the past to be the hardest part for me; the gratitude and visualization work were the most rewarding.  My focus was to clear up several muscle spasms I was having in my body and in my eye.  I also wanted to get off all 21 medications I was taking post surgery.   We achieved that and no more sugar also.  The muscle spasm in my eye truly is gone and I lost 8 pounds.  I think I will use SHORT PATH for several more healing focus experiences, right away to keep the momentum going forward and achieve more healing.

Jenny Mannion is quite the healer, beginning with being told she was so ill that she would need to be in a wheel chair and by changing her focus she was able within 15 days to walk and heal her own dis-ease.   She has been able to return to her love of dance and she has an active practice of intuitive healing.  We are still clear across the country from each other and I am still reading her blog. The book helped me empower my own healing with the book giving solid guidance.  Mannion is also a regular contributor to the Huffington Post.  It has been marvelous to follow her bookstore tours and read all the wonderful comments about the book and her work on Face Book .

The book is so positive at the minimum it will lift spirits introducing one to the other healing modalities available to our self-healing bodies.  I highly recommend SHORT PATH TO CHANGE.

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