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Monday, October 24th, 2016

Sometimes life just leaves you all alone. Feels just awful but what is a gal to do? If you are Nina Popkin you just start searching out new goals and pick up your spirits and charge forward.  The reader is pulled into this story of rejection and the glorious optimism and worry of Nina until one is immersed in the possibility of a happy ending.

THE SURVIVOR’S QUIDE TO FAMILY HAPPINESS is actually a story about 3 women and the choices they are making that will guide their future.  Nina’s plight is the grounding to the whole adventure, as in her 30s her mother dies of cancer, her 6 months marriage is now a divorce, and her best friend and boss is newly married and very happy.  Since Nina was adopted she begins her future by deciding to track down her birth mother, and help a recently divorced father of 2 teens find a condo and move out of the family home.  These two events bring out Nina’s sharp wit and also her sadness, which she is working through with a sense of maturity and “klutz”.

Soon in the process, Nina discovers she has a sister; arranges to meet her and she starts dating the fellow with the two teens.  New sister resists tracking down her birth mother or forming a relationship with Nina.  The two girls do look alike and Lindy has beautiful red hair and not the curly, frizzy hair that Nina supports; they discover they lived close to each other growing up and even attended the same schools.  This encounter stirs up feelings for Lindy and makes her responses to her mom tense and confusing.  Lindy is trying to live the “perfect” life, as has no room for these new feelings.

Indigo the teen daughter adds a new voice to the situation as she develops a “Must do” list of rather dangerous adventures and uses magic markers to color her hair.  Lots of hair referrals in this story!   And yet, her “gutsy” demanding demeanor gets the two sisters relating to each other and figuring out some solutions to who they are and what actions they need to accomplish to find resolution.

I thoroughly enjoyed this story telling and wandering within the feelings exposed.  I liked the outcome and results and how the girls handled themselves within their discoveries.  Everyone found a good solution and was left better off as the story unfolded.  THE SURVIVOR’S QUIDE TO FAMILY HAPPINESS was a good read.  Thank you to TLC Book Tours  and Lake Union Press for sharing this book with me.

“Maddie Dawson grew up in the South, born into a family of outrageous storytellers. Her various careers as a substitute English teacher, department-store clerk, medical-records typist, waitress, cat sitter, wedding-invitation-company receptionist, nanny, day-care worker, electrocardiogram technician, and Taco Bell taco maker were made bearable by thinking up stories as she worked. Today she lives in Guilford, Connecticut, with her husband. She’s the bestselling author of four previous novels: The Opposite of Maybe, The Stuff That Never Happened, Kissing Games of the World, and A Piece of Normal.” (TLC Tours)

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Seen and Heard

Monday, September 10th, 2012
Living Building Challenge

Living Building Challenge

Recently I have been working on learning how to write grants.  I want to be able to fund a huge project which will make a big difference in our community.  It is a teaching project and the Challenge   has won several very prestigious awards for its vision and its scope.  I need to be seen by a large number of people and even more importantly – Heard.

Since I have a wealth of rejection experiences to draw from, I have gained a profound amount of skill, which I believe will serve me well.  I am determined to succeed in my efforts and have been working on this challenge for 3 years already.

I have to believe that this project will make a worthwhile difference and it is wonderful to be inspired by others who have already taken on the challenge and can share their knowledge.  We know that the current election candidates will make a huge difference to our efforts; one will embrace and one will force us back underground in our efforts (though both will be front and center to take the credit if we succeed).

I am not surprised by the number of people who cannot hear me because I am talking about something fairly new and they need a more specific rendering to comprehend.  I am still amazed at the number of people who cannot see me because I am a woman doing this work; I do not have the correct training or education to be taking on this Challenge and this causes a great many individuals and groups to close down and turn off.

Sometimes when one is in need, just the right support comes along… Pat made a comment on a blog post and linked me to a great song by Josh Groban.   I have been starting my day playing this video and I thought you might enjoy and be inspired by this music too.  So here is the link: YouTube

Do you have a theme song for your projects and efforts?

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Do You Know Your Walk Score?  
Taking On THE Challenge
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The Art Of The Sale: Learning From the Masters About the Business of Life ~Philip Delves Broughton

Thursday, April 12th, 2012

I am very enthusiastic about this book.  THE ART OF THE SALE is about change and success and I am always enthusiastic about those topics.   I picked up this book with the first opportunity that presented itself because I thought it was going to be a difficult read and I had lots of tasks to complete with so much company arriving at my house, I wanted guaranteed focused time.   I could hardly put the book down, it was a great read and so well written.

Mr. Broughton has traveled the globe interviewing the very top salesmen and women.  He believes that we are all sales people and that we all need to be sales people, because this is the basic way we connect to others in our world and it is how we get our needs met.  Here he tells the stories of how these individuals developed their skills and sharpened their talents.  It is fascinating.

At first I thought I should just recommend this book to bloggers and writers, because I think the stories and tools are such valuable lessons, then I slept on that idea and think this book is ideal for everyone.

“Sales is nothing more than the purely human ordeal of rejection and acceptance”

I have taken 2 marketing classes this past year and learned a great deal.  I am still not able to implement good marketing strategies into job interviews or marketing my blogs.   It is not that I do not believe in myself or my words, but marketing is big, big, big picture work; the salesman or saleswoman does the one on one work of promotion.  This is the ART OF THE CLOSE.    After reading this book, I realize that I have lots of knowledge about marketing, I am not fast enough in this environment, and to be truly successful at this business I will need to hire someone and I still have to learn how to be a good sales person because I am not a natural.

My youngest child is a natural and, as she says, #1.  I over talk myself and the customer out of the sale.  I do not know when to stop.  I try to convince folks.   I am not afraid of rejection and I can use it well to learn and grow, but I have to be too “honest” about what I am trying to sell.   I am not a good trickster or promiser and since I am working on selling “change” and releasing “fear”, I have chosen a very difficult market to reach.  I also do not have enough WANTS.   I have to teach my classes at University for a couple of years before I have a waiting list; folks think they know how to think and think ethically because they are not being arrested and the noise in their brains is running all the time.


“…being committed to finding a meaningful purpose in life, the belief that one can influence one’s surroundings and the outcome of events, and the belief that one can learn and grow from both positive and negative life experiences.”
“The folks with the most ‘no s’ made the most money.”
“ …this acceptance of rejection and failure as essential to building the muscle necessary for eventual success.”

The stories are about real people and how they succeeded at selling whether it was at street fairs, door to door, on a showroom floor, through big industries such as IBM, and Boeing right through to how to do Internet sales.   It takes a salesman or a saleswoman to close the deal that the marketing folks have set the stage for – you can only close if you meet the NEED of the other.

Martin Shanker asked the author during his interview this question: “What do you most want for your children? The answer, he told me [Broughton] after I fumbled to find my own, was this: the ability to meet their own needs.” “We want our children not merely to be self-sufficient, but to be able to meet the needs any human has in order to live a fulfilling life.”

Selling is about understanding and using your own needs and emotions to find fulfillment.

This book is very valuable information sharing.   Selling inspires thinking skills and faith, when one stops being told what to believe (formulas) and what to say and can truly think and act .   The Art Of The Sale  is what we will need when we give up playing games and being entertained, it is about the art of living life.

tlclogoI am grateful for TLC online book tours and The Penguin Press for sharing this book with me – It was eye opening and full of great information.

If you order anything from Amazon (including Kindle) or Powell’s or from this site, I will receive a few beans in my bucket.

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