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IT TAKES ONE TO TANGO: How I Rescued My Marriage With (Almost) No Help From My Spouse—and How You Can, Too ~ Winifred Reilly, MA, MFT

Friday, August 11th, 2017

IT TAKES ONE TO TANGO is a wonderful read and I had a hard time putting it down.  I have been to marriage therapy several times with my partner and it was always so disappointing because he would not make any changes and just found it an excuse to demand that I do all the work and announce he wasn’t going to cooperate.   This was just not acceptable and I did not enjoy being attacked verbally when we were paying for the session.

Then I took Nonviolent Communications workshops with Dr. Marshal Rosenberg and I found out that I could make lots of changes just through my own efforts and energies; processing my thinking and actions alone could change the dynamics with my partner and my children.   I started working on myself.  It was good work, it was not easy and it was so worth it.

IT TAKES ONE TO TANGO, moves this theory forward and makes the hard work of marriage something that one person can tackle and promote change and success.  This is not a workbook for those folks suffering with physical abuse, rather it is for those couples who are caught up in those circular arguments that never find resolution and make a marriage wearing and the partners wanting to call it quits.   This is even for those folks who may think their marriage is hopeless.

“Feel like you live on the verge of ripping your partner’s head off and shoving it down the neck hole? It Takes One to Tango is for you. Author Winifred Reilly not only explains why marriage is so predictably frustrating, but more important she reveals how you can turn the tide without your spouse’s help or even consent. Using her own marriage as a litmus test, Reilly offers a pragmatic alternative to subjecting an unwilling participant to years of pricey, unproductive marriage therapy or talking yourself blue in the face.” — Jenna McCarthy, author of If It Was Easy They’d Call the Whole Damn Thing a Honeymoon”

Marriage is very hard work and takes a great deal of energy.  Families need good communication skills and adults that are not fighting all the time.  IT TAKES ONE TO TANGO can break the tough routines and allow a marriage to become vibrant and flourish.   It is not about creating the perfect marriage.  It is about change and finding the love again. I cannot highly recommend this book enough; I am sharing it with my book groups.  It is such a pleasant read and very satisfying for the DIY enthusiasts.

I did like very much that Reilly uses her own marriage, which has survived 40+ years and her own work as part of the process she shares.  We don’t truly want perfect marriages – we want alive and healthy marriages!

TLC Booktours, sent me a copy of IT TAKES ONE TO TANGO for review – Fabulous read!    Thank you.

About Winifred Reilly

Winifred M. Reilly is a marriage and family therapist, with a private practice in Berkeley, CA.  She has been committed to helping couples and individuals build strong, loving relationships for more than 35 years. Winifred is the author of the relationship advice blog Speaking of Marriage, and her work has appeared in The Good Men Project, xoJane, and The Huffington Post.

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HEALING AND PREVENTION THROUGH NUTRITION: A Holistic Approach to Eating and Living for Optimal Health, Weight, and Wellness ~Evita Ochel

Monday, December 29th, 2014

I have been following Evita Ochel on her blog, website and Facebook for about eight years, I hope someday to meet her and talk in person, and she has been an inspiration for me time and time again when it comes to food, lifestyle, documentary choices, and healing.  Evita has never failed to answer any of my questions, she often refers me to whole essays she has written and she encouraged me in several juice fasts we did on line together.

This is her new book and updated second edition about healing, food and choices.  The book is geared towards explaining and educating the reader in what we have learned about nutrition, lifestyles, and healing in the most recent explosion of information.  Evita sorts out the test results, the resources, and the economically motivated myth making of advertisers.  There is a whole ream of truly significant known facts in this book, there is a great deal of research and de-mythologizing about what terms means and how they affect the way we eat, there is a solid understanding of our beliefs and how a body and mind are able to change, and there is an open discussion about resources available and how to utilize them to your advantage.  There is no preaching and “have to’s”, it is just teaching at its best level and the science is definitely presented in an appropriate reading- comprehension style.   The author wants the reader to know and understand; Food and eating are a whole person responsibility.

The politics, the economics and the environment are fully and skillfully covered.  You make the right choices for yourself and your family. Good review of the tools that work best for a healthy, healing kitchen.

“The World Health Organization (WHO) has defined health as ‘a state of complete physical, mental, and social well being and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity.’”  (Page 123)

For 39 years I have been cooking, growing and healing with food for my family.  I have often wished I had someone to talk with about Celiac Disease and Allergies and I found that person in Evita and am delighted to share her wisdom as found in her offering of HEALING AND PREVENTION THROUGH NUTRITION.    I was on my own in tracking down raw, pesticide free, GMO free grains and seeds – I had my own mill and no designer Gluten Free Kits for food.  Evita shares the links and connections; it is wonderful to discover so many of them are right here in my area and I have been using their products for years.

I very HIGHLY RECOMMEND this book. I am often asked to cook for other people and families, I did that in my younger years as I helped individuals make nutrition changes and create healing their lives. I will now recommend HEALING AND PREVENTION THROUGH NUTRITION for those requests. I will highly recommend WILD-PLATE by Laurel Anderson for those who want to make the gourmet shift in eating and preparation. HEALING AND PREVENTION THROUGH NUTRITION is all the facts and the easiest-simplest of preparation modes.

Evita Ochel sent me an iBook copy of this book for review.  How lucky am I?

Step by step make some healthy choices for the New Year – what have you got to lose?

About the Author:

Evita Ochel B.Sc, B.Ed, CHN, is a consciousness expansion teacher, writer, speaker, and Web TV host. She holds an honors bachelor of science degree in the areas of biology and psychology and a bachelor of education degree in the areas of science and mathematics. She is a natural health expert, certified holistic nutritionist, and certified yoga teacher. Her passion for teaching and empowering others to live the highest quality of life is reflected in all of her creative endeavors: written and video resources, teaching platforms, and events. She taught high school science for seven years, and since 2009, she has been teaching worldwide, online and in-person, providing guidance and resources for all areas of the mind, body, and spirit. She is the author and creator of seven websites and two video networks that feature hundreds of essays, articles, reviews, recipes, videos, and photographs. Along her personal journey into optimal wellness, she created the Healthytarian lifestyle, based on Fresh Thinking, Smart Eating, and Mindful Living. For more information about Evita or her work, visit www.EvitaOchel.com. (From Amazon webpage)

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