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IT TAKES ONE TO TANGO: How I Rescued My Marriage With (Almost) No Help From My Spouse—and How You Can, Too ~ Winifred Reilly, MA, MFT

Friday, August 11th, 2017

IT TAKES ONE TO TANGO is a wonderful read and I had a hard time putting it down.  I have been to marriage therapy several times with my partner and it was always so disappointing because he would not make any changes and just found it an excuse to demand that I do all the work and announce he wasn’t going to cooperate.   This was just not acceptable and I did not enjoy being attacked verbally when we were paying for the session.

Then I took Nonviolent Communications workshops with Dr. Marshal Rosenberg and I found out that I could make lots of changes just through my own efforts and energies; processing my thinking and actions alone could change the dynamics with my partner and my children.   I started working on myself.  It was good work, it was not easy and it was so worth it.

IT TAKES ONE TO TANGO, moves this theory forward and makes the hard work of marriage something that one person can tackle and promote change and success.  This is not a workbook for those folks suffering with physical abuse, rather it is for those couples who are caught up in those circular arguments that never find resolution and make a marriage wearing and the partners wanting to call it quits.   This is even for those folks who may think their marriage is hopeless.

“Feel like you live on the verge of ripping your partner’s head off and shoving it down the neck hole? It Takes One to Tango is for you. Author Winifred Reilly not only explains why marriage is so predictably frustrating, but more important she reveals how you can turn the tide without your spouse’s help or even consent. Using her own marriage as a litmus test, Reilly offers a pragmatic alternative to subjecting an unwilling participant to years of pricey, unproductive marriage therapy or talking yourself blue in the face.” — Jenna McCarthy, author of If It Was Easy They’d Call the Whole Damn Thing a Honeymoon”

Marriage is very hard work and takes a great deal of energy.  Families need good communication skills and adults that are not fighting all the time.  IT TAKES ONE TO TANGO can break the tough routines and allow a marriage to become vibrant and flourish.   It is not about creating the perfect marriage.  It is about change and finding the love again. I cannot highly recommend this book enough; I am sharing it with my book groups.  It is such a pleasant read and very satisfying for the DIY enthusiasts.

I did like very much that Reilly uses her own marriage, which has survived 40+ years and her own work as part of the process she shares.  We don’t truly want perfect marriages – we want alive and healthy marriages!

TLC Booktours, sent me a copy of IT TAKES ONE TO TANGO for review – Fabulous read!    Thank you.

About Winifred Reilly

Winifred M. Reilly is a marriage and family therapist, with a private practice in Berkeley, CA.  She has been committed to helping couples and individuals build strong, loving relationships for more than 35 years. Winifred is the author of the relationship advice blog Speaking of Marriage, and her work has appeared in The Good Men Project, xoJane, and The Huffington Post.

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FINDING FONTAINEBLEAU: An American Boy in France ~ Thad Carhart

Monday, July 11th, 2016

“Long before mass tourism and globalization, France was simple, soulful, and every inch stimulating.  Carhart knew it all and shares this with us with the deftness and insight of a master storyteller.”  (Cover:  Leonard Pitt, author of WALKS THROUGH LOST PARIS)

FINDING FONTAINBEBLEAU is a beguiling memoir of post war France with loving stories about baguettes and penmanship learned with quill pens and black ink.  I enjoyed every page and every story in this book and was sad when I turned the last page.  At age 4, Carhart’s military family was moved from the Virginia suburbs to Fontainebleau, France.  The family celebrated their move with trips all over the countryside and discoveries while attending French schools.  With five children and a big old “woodie” Chevy station wagon they explored.  The author captures a great deal about French culture and habits.  It is a remarkable story.

The Nazi invasion truly made a difference to the hearts and minds of the French and the subtle protections on the individual levels are recorded in the stories.  PBS is doing a series on the importance of NATO and this story talks about the beginnings of those treaties.  War changes so much.
About the Author

The son of an air force officer, Thad Carhart grew up in a variety of places, including Washington, D.C.; Fontainebleau, France; Minneapolis; Amherst, Massachusetts; and Tokyo. After graduating from Yale, he worked for the State Department as an interpreter. His first book, The Piano Shop on the Left Bank, appeared in 2000, published by Random House. Across the Endless River, a historical novel came out in 2009 with Doubleday. He lives in Paris. (AMAZON)

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I was constantly thinking about who I wanted to share this book with and for what occasion.  Carhart has returned to France with his family as an adult and has been given tours by the architect who is refurbishing The Castle Fontainebleau.  The layers of tile, the roofing material, the commitment of the people of France to their historic sites and the damage done by millions of tourists as they visit is fascinating.  Then the stories of the Kings, Queens, Mistresses and how they changed the buildings and added on to the design, and how consistent and authentic the designs and repairs were to the original buildings – fascinating.

The author’s Mother and the recorded stories about the 5 siblings and their adjustments to a new house and country are loving and often humorous.  The word delightful just keeps coming to mind.

I just wrapped up my copy for the biking architect in my family as his birthday is tomorrow and he will so enjoy this story to the max.  It did make me want to visit France and particularly Fontainebleau.  I have been excitedly talking about the book at my book groups as even though it is a very different read, I think they will enjoy the look at the 50s and what it would be like to be transplanted, not knowing the language, as a child.

TLC Book Tours   sent this book to me for review and it is wonderful.

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Monday, December 30th, 2013

TPGTM_coverTHE POCKET GUIDE TO MANIFESTING is a delightful compilation of the steps to manifest those ideas you wish to occur and wonderful anecdotes about how actual manifestations came about, from million dollar jobs, exciting adventures, to the perfect dream house.

I have known Megan Bord as a blogger and internet friend for several years.  Megan’s positive spirit just bounds off the page and into your heart with every encounter.  With each connection to Megan’s words, I am reminded to lighten up my spirits, feel the joy, and to think with positive outcomes and boundless gratitude for this life and the good coming my way.

I was excited about this amazing manifester writing a book and sharing her basic steps, THE POCKET GUIDE TO MANIFESTING is so concise it changed my thinking.  I have a paperback copy and I am getting an e- copy because I like the size and I can carry it around (even on my smart phone) and remind myself that the steps are simple and easy to follow.  Her stories are positive reinforcement.

I am not new to manifesting and the most profound successful outcomes in my life have proven to be a constant reminder in understanding everything is possible.  When my husband and I were first married, we took a “how to” class to set up our finances.  One of the first exercises was to write down 100 things we wanted to accomplish in our lives.   10 years later when we were moving to a new house we found the list and we had accomplished everything except for diamond earrings!   99 successes and we had misplaced the list for years.

My youngest daughter until age 16, when she started to fully understand fear, manifested anything thing she wanted.  We had to ask her to stop expecting us to provide everything for her and she begin to take some action on her own!
Action is an important part of the process and I think a number of folks fail to use that step and just stop at the wish – that makes it just wishful thinking.

I found that I am such a planner, that I was getting stuck on the HOW TO part of the process.  I just could not let go of the process and I kept making the actions bigger and bigger until they became impossible.

Having THE POCKET GUIDE TO MANIFESTING close at hand has been a terrific tool for me, I have referred to it often and now know I want another  e-copy so I can carry it with me.

megan-bThis book in a part of my own library; I purchased it and I am extremely happy to support Megan Bord in her endeavors and I enjoy feeling more positive and grateful for my own life and desires.

I am not making any resolutions this year.  I am manifesting what I want.  I am happy dancing because of my new Kindle FIRE HD reader!

Want to know more? Or Manifest a copy of THE POCKET GUIDE TO MANIFESTING?
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