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IF YOU LEAVE ME, CAN I COME WITH YOU? Daily Meditations for Codependents and Al-Anons…with a Sense of Humor ~Misti B.

A book of days to get the brain thinking and started off leading the way to recovery. Though inspiring and loaded with good common sense, IF YOU LEAVE ME, CAN I COME WITH YOU?  is not romantic or poetic or beautiful phrases – very real and down to earth.  It is a focused look at how to change behaviors one day at a time with a great deal of “tongue in cheek” and “sarcastic” style humor.   Each day a hard lesson is described and then the process to change the thinking is explored in real time and with great truth.  This is Misti B.’s journey shared with others to assist them in moving forward and living a fuller more centered life.

The Hazelden Foundation sent me a copy of IF YOU LEAVE ME, CAN I COME WITH YOU? in plenty of time for me to divide up the read into monthly chapters.  I did not need to read all 365 days at one time.   I read groups of the meditations and then could put the book down to come back to at another time.  A large number of the selections stuck with me during the day and brought on another laugh or an opportunity for me to think some new thoughts.

I read a poem everyday or I read from a book of days everyday and it just feels right to start my day off with a bit of inspiration and good thoughts. This book is quite fun and I can understand why it might be useful for others in their recovery.  It made an impression on me.

“HAZELDEN Betty Ford Foundation is a force of healing and hope for individuals, families and communities affected by addiction to alcohol and other drugs.  It is the nation’s largest nonprofit treatment provider, with a legacy that began in 1949 and includes the 1982 founding of the Betty Ford Center.  With 15 sites in California, Minnesota, Oregon, Illinois, New York, Florida, Massachusetts, Colorado and Texas, the Foundation offers prevention and recovery solutions nationwide and across the entire continuum of care for youth and adults.”

It is important that we share our stories and Misti B. has done a fun telling of her recovery story that I believe will be helpful to many readers along the way.  The promo materials give this short descriptor:

  • Meditations and wisdom to successfully tackle everyday challenges we all face, whether or not you identify as a codependent, Al-Anon or as someone in recovery.
  • Advice on how to deal with Christmas, Valentine’s Day, and other holidays
  • Tips for working through common struggles that people in All-Anon face such as perfectionism, caretaking, people-pleasing, and more
  • Lighthearted and humorous approaches to struggling through stressful events and situations
  • The Twelve Steps of Al-Anon and the Twelve Steps of Codependents Anonymous.

Misti Barnes, a writer, filmmaker, and recovering codependent, writes humorous books about life in recovery, shining some light into normally very dark spaces.  Misti’s career in entertainment – producing live events, writing and directing for stage, TV, and film – combined with her dysfunctional upbringing provide the fodder for her gritty but inspiring recovery stories.


Mind Without a Home
My Thinning Years
Shadows In The Sun
The Isolation Door

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4 Responses to “IF YOU LEAVE ME, CAN I COME WITH YOU? Daily Meditations for Codependents and Al-Anons…with a Sense of Humor ~Misti B.”

  1. Hilary Says:

    Hi Patricia – this sounds a very good book for many people. The title is appealing and interesting … I’m sure the book will be a success and make a good read. The author Misti B certainly has the right attributes to enlighten those who struggle.

    I hope all is well and the move has happened and successfully accomplished or on its way … good luck and cheers Hilary
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    Patricia Reply:

    THank you for stopping by and I so enjoyed your article Carpaccio – though I am not a raw meat fan.

    Move date is the 13th so we are getting closer and I will be off line for 3 full days – that does not feel so wonderful.

    It is a great book and so nice to get one laughing at themselves and our foibles.
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  2. Sam Juliano Says:

    Obviously this kind of book is worthwhile for many, and you make splendid case first hand for tghe matters of health, well-being and enjoying like and all its most cherished dates and events. Sounds like a keeper Patricia! Terrific review!

    Patricia Reply:

    Thank you for your kind words. It is a helpful book and I have shared it will a friend who is working on this very struggle right now

    Laughter is such good medicine.
    Thank you too for your shout out
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