THE FIRST RULE OF INNER PEACE: Jesus’ Sensible Way To Be Happy ~John Kuypers
Matthew 7:5 “First take the plank out of you own eye and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.”
Today in western society there are a tremendous number of people who are not happy. The pursuit of HAPPINESS is high on the list of the Human Agenda! It is even a part of the US Constitution. THE FIRST RULE OF INNER PEACE is a handy ebook – pocket guide to sure fire ways to get to your point of inner happiness in a very direct route.
THE FIRST RULE OF INNER PEACE is a very similar practice to a children’s problem – solving/ conflict – resolution tool which I learned at the University of Washington and taught at Elementary schools in the region. SIGEP is a very simple way to defuse any situation and move forward. Kuypers has put the Biblical words ascribed to Jesus to take people through the same steps towards resolution.
S Stop is the first step of making a change. What you are doing right now is not making you happy
Kuypers says: “First get neutral about outcomes and then you will see clearly what to do.”
I Identify the problem. This is the hardest step of all. Easy for a child and masked by adults. Sometimes it takes going back 7 to 10 levels in order to see that past experiences are not what the present moment is all about. Seek back into your expectations and identify what is the result and outcome which you expected; it might even be a childhood painful moment – not the present one.
Kuypers says: This is the taking the LOG out of your own eye before you remove the speck from others. This is the hard work of staying in the present, not worrying about the past or the future and not covering up the work which we need to accomplish. “What we are failing to see is that other people have the right to make mistakes, even when those mistakes hurt us.”
G Generate new ideas. This often takes a lot of pushing and sometimes laughter because we like to do what we know – and yet when we do push and pull some new ideas we are more satisfied and happy about doing NEW things than staying in the old ruts.
Kuypers says: This sometimes takes study and assistance, because we are not always aware of our behaviors and cleaning up the old past analysis and using our old ideas to wish for future outcomes is not being in the present, but is a habit that we call forth quickly. Once again, it is important to be in the present and not be “constantly chewing on the future relentlessly while analyzing the past.”
E Evaluate the ideas generated. This too might take a bit of new learning. We like our old judgments to work with ease for us in the present tense.
Kuypers says: In Jesus’ words, “Judge not lest you be judged”. When you are judging others you are not working from your center or towards your inner peace. To be peaceful with ourselves we need to be “accepting of others when they have differing religious beliefs.”
P Plan of action and usually a few notes will keep us moving towards our present goal and release us from our expectations of what we cannot control.
Kuypers says: “We are seeking to gain control over our inner experience by purposely exposing those aspects of our mind and heart that become upset when things do not go our way. In reality, we are digging up our past so that we can stop it from biasing our present moment reactions.”
The 68 pages in my PDF unproofed copy of THE FIRST RULE OF INNER PEACE was a nice reminder for me about looking to myself and discovering my strengths of discernment and dropping judgments which are blocking my happiness. I like knowing I can carry this ebook with me and look at it again when I find myself angry and frustrated about what is happening in my life. I am not very happy in response to all the “CHRISTIANS” in my community and in my government who are making judgments about my future; which involve a great deal of name-calling and dangerous outcomes. They just do not need to affect my inner peace. I wish those “others” would read this book!
This book was sent to me by John Kuypers the author, and it was an enjoyable read and a great reinforcement of my own beliefs about change, communication skills and finding peace within one’s self. Thank you for the opportunity to read THE FIRST RULE OF INNER PEACE.
“John Kuypers is an inner peace leadership coach, writer and speaker. He is the author of five books and is currently writing a memoir of his inner peace journey. He has appeared on television, radio and print numerous times over the years.”