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The Perfect Mother’s Day Gift

Ruth M Hamilton

Ruth M Hamilton

I love to give gifts and I pride myself in giving gifts that truly match up to the person to whom they are intended. The specific event is not so important, it is the thought and intention which matter the most.

Mother’s Day is celebrated in the middle of May in the USA.  My older brother holds the record for giving the best gift to our Mother by being born male on Mother’s Day.  He was the first grandchild added to my Mother’s family tree and she was so proud to hold that honor.  The two daughters had to work very hard for this event and we never quite measured up.

My Mother was very proud of all of her children and extremely equal with her attentions.  She taught us all that we must work very hard to achieve anything in life, how to be good citizens and thoughtful people.   She wanted my brother to be an elementary school teacher, my sister to be a special education teacher and she thought maybe I could become a secretary because I was so organized.  My brother became a policeman, my sister a reading specialist and me, well (sigh) I write a blog or three.

My siblings had a hard time learning to read and I had dyscalcula (she just thought it was being lazy on my part); my siblings took on learning how to be great at what they did and to show her how wonderful they were.  My Mother hoped we would win scholarships to college and get awards for our efforts.  Rather she became the most requested 1st grade teacher in the district, not because she was a great entertainer, but because the children who left her classroom at the end of the year had a strong foundation to go forward and they felt good about school; had a sense of accomplishment.  She earned many a reward from the parents of her students and so many of her students attended her Memorial Service 5 years ago.

My brother did win the Volunteer of the year award before Mother died and she was so proud.

She was so proud of my sister for her frugality and talent with earning and investing money, at one time she thought she should have encouraged her to be an accountant, numbers were her forte’, instead of a reading teacher, which was so difficult.  Mother was proud of how hard she worked and her perseverance.  She was proud of how carefully my sister followed in her example and how disciplined they both were.

My Mother felt she had taken care of me by getting me to marry a man who would have a stable income and who she liked so very much and he would always make sure I had the basic necessities of life.  As a team, we brought her home after she fractured her spine and I took care of her 24/7 – right to the end.  I heard her confessions and there were no real regrets and I valued her clear global voice.

Her last Mother’s Day, she told me that I was an amazing mother – loving, guiding, kind, and creative – and she forgave me for sometimes yelling my anger; she apologized for being so critical of me at the time it had seemed appropriate.

Now is time for the best Mother’s Day gift of all – her grandchildren are doing her proud.  Those awards are coming this year – IT Girl has just won the highest honor for her master’s thesis at San Francisco State University and was nominated for another award for writing excellence.  Librarian Girl just had a week of 32 hugs from her students as she completes her first year of full time teaching.  Entrepreneurial Girl has been promoted in her position 2 times this year into management with her own car.  Dancing Girl will graduate from Law School this Mother’s Day.  Alaska Girl has her driver’s license and is moving towards high school graduation with honors.  First born Grandson, and oldest of the crew, is off teaching math and reading for the Navy having to leave his wife and children at home for a long period of time.

The perfect Mother’s Day gift is coming true and I think she knows – I’m sure of it.

Have you ever given the perfect gift?  Was someone proud of you?  Did you receive a great award for your talents?

Happy Mother’s Day !

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15 Responses to “The Perfect Mother’s Day Gift”

  1. Hilary Says:

    Hi Patricia .. what a lovely set of gifts for your Mother’s Day – how proud you sound .. and I’m so pleased the children are all so successful, while you’ve done your best for your mother in her time of need. I hope they give you much love, peace and happiness this weekend … together with care and compassion the needs of life.

    Enjoy the weekend .. cheers Hilary
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    Patricia Reply:

    Oh I feel remiss because I have been reading so many new blogs to promote Wise Ears, I have not been round to support my own community. How lovely to find your kind words here this morning. Thank you

    I am very proud of my kiddos and my nieces and nephews and all their good accomplishments. That is mother’s day enough for me

    None will be close by for the actual Sunday event, but we found enough miles to fly down to SF to see IT Girl get her award…
    I just feel lucky to be part of the sunshine and being connected to their lives.

  2. Patricia Says:

    the picture above is my mum at age 90 – she fractured her spine at age 91 and died at age 94….

  3. Geek Girl Sf Says:

    This is a test comment since there have been reports of the captcha not working.

  4. vered | Blogger for Hire Says:

    Congrats on your daughter’s achievement. I used to be very critical of my own mother until I became a mother myself. Once you become a mom, you realize how difficult it is and you know that no matter how hard you try or how good your intentions are, you are going to make mistakes.

    Patricia Reply:

    You are oh so right! I just wanted to be an awesome mom…and I think I accomplished that :)

  5. suzen Says:

    Happy Mother’s Day (almost)! Lots of great acheivements in your family! I know none of that comes without a lot of hard work and dedication. Kudos to all!

    The perfect gift? They all are! I feel so blessed with any and all. I love it when my family thinks outside the box – some really surprising results :)

    I’ve had awards and recognition for various things in my 64 years. What amazed me the most was actually selling my artwork! It’s been a great ride thus far!

    My mom, well, I had a “different” childhood. She had a breakdown when I was 6. I sort of mothered myself from then on and also had to mother her. She’s been gone for 27 years but yes, she was most definitely proud of me.

    Hugs – and have a great day Sunday! Suzen
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  6. suzen Says:

    Hi Patricia,
    My first (and LONG) comment disappeared. Quickly, kudos to you and yours for all the sterling achievements! Fabulous! It takes a lot of hard work, dedication and support to do all those things.

    I had a different kind of childhood. My mom had a breakdown of sorts when I was 6 so I took over being the mom for both of us. It made me into a grown up before I was ready for that responsibility. Maybe that’s why I’m such a kid at heart now. I know she was proud of me. She’s been gone 27 years – my dad 31.

    Every gift is a gift, and precious and from the heart. I shun the word “perfect” as I leave that distinction to the Divine.

    Blessed with awards/recognition for a wild variety of things in 64 years. Tickles me pink. One of the most surprising was selling my artwork – that felt huge for me!
    Have a great Mother’s Day!

    Patricia Reply:

    Thanks for coming back! Both your comments appeared as we got the Captcha Coding fixed…It has been a computer difficult day
    I lost facebook too???

    I hope you have a wonderful Mother’s day and aren’t those surprises just the best! thank you for you kind words

    My father has been gone for 32 years – it is hard and having to mother your mother – I know that experience too but not until she was in her 90s. My mum had a razor sharp mind until she died – her only regret was not being able to vote for a “good woman” for President.

  7. Laurie Buchanan Says:

    What a wonderful read you’ve provided this morning, Patricia. I savored it with a cuppa tea.

    Patricia Reply:

    Thank you for your kind words Laurie
    My mum was an amazing tea drinker – she took all her worries to her cuppa
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  8. Carol Says:

    Wonderful girt for a wonderful person in our lives. :) thanks for this post.
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    Patricia Reply:

    Thank you Carol.

  9. Lael Says:

    This was a really nice post. I miss her very much.

    Patricia Reply:

    ME Too and thank you :)
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