When Adult Children Come Home – Be Aware
When adult children come home for a holiday or vacation there is a decidedly different energy in the house and some things are just timelessly the same.
I thought I would share a list of the 10 major ideas that made me take note:
- Every glass in the cupboard was used every day and I needed to wander the house to gather them all and get them in the dishwasher for the next day’s use.
- The washer and the dryer were in nearly constant usage (well they did go cross country skiing) and they do not have to pay at our house!
- Every juice or milk carton was replaced in the refrigerator with only about 1 oz. of liquid remaining and often the next round was still frozen in the freezer or warm in the pantry.
- Roommates often accompany adult children to your home, are welcomed and squeezed into the activities, even without prior notification.
- The concept of 20 minute showers – max or Japanese showers is completely lost on adult children who are not paying a separate power/utilities bill yet! Frustrating indeed and you know you taught them to turn off the lights when they leave a room – but they have just experienced a new freedom and they forget.
- When their friends come over to visit you are included in the conversation which is much more interesting and invigorating. There is not a big hurry to escape your presence! ?
- All the parents comparing notes have discovered new APPS on their cell phones, especially ones for movie theaters in the area. I got a new grocery list app on my phone and it works very well and is simply wonderful. Dad got a new bike riding trail organizing APP and is finding this fun.
- Surprise! The gas tank on the car is empty and my car needed to get all the de-icer and grime off it after so many mountain runs.
- The clock on the TV/DVD player is set to the correct time, as it has been not set since the last power outage!
- My computer is now running quickly and has a new working OS on it but all of the widgets and desktop icons are missing and I have no idea where they are… (and I had to jump for joy over this gift until I accidentally erased about 400 emails that had mounted up while I took 2 weeks off of my computer!)
Hope this was a fun venture into the world of adult children’s homecoming – I surely did have a marvelous time and I also saved my whole month’s grocery allowance for just this holiday adventure. There is a whole lot of eating going on, help with the dishes and even some compliments for your efforts.
Can you add to this list? What are some of the changes you have noticed when adult children come home? When do children become fully adult in your definitions?
A special thank you to all the parents who shared and Tait, Beth, Jeff, Quinn, Whitney, Lael and Brad who assisted me in the preparation of the this list – and performed those magic tasks!
Looking forward to your fabulous responses and comments…