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Dove of Peace

My children used to ask me what food do we eat to celebrate Martin Luther King Day?

My answer has been, it is a food for thought day.  It is a day for me to listen to great speeches, understand the principles of Nonviolence and then communicate those principles with the actions of my words and life.

The best way I know to vision and change the world is to begin with myself, to make sure that I am being nonviolent.    I have studied Emerson, Thoreau, Gandhi and Dr. King’s words and work; for the past 10 years I have found Dr. Marshall Rosenberg’s Workbook and practice group to be most beneficial for putting nonviolence into an action plan.

Rosenberg’s Work begins from inside of an individual to stop the violent and negative self-indulgent conversations we have, and has been called the language for the New Millennia because anyone can do it and it just changes the whole perspective of one’s world view.  I am more respectful of my own self and when problem-solving and communicating with folks who are confused or conflicted (teenagers) it is most powerful.

Small children are given equally footing in a conversation or conflict – they feel powerful and connected.

I am actively using this work to change my thinking paradigm about money and how I think about abundance and finance.  Today I will pause and put it to work to feel peaceful and relaxed.

My Physician just called to see how I was doing with my processes of healing. I had clearly asked her to demonstrate she cared about my struggle with healing and on this day of celebrating nonviolence she thought a call and some clarifications would indicate her support and caring.  It Did!

My children have all studied Nonviolent Communications and are now finding the techniques extremely helpful in their lives – particularly in areas of conflict and communications.

So I am going to recommend to each of you this most wonderful workbook and maybe you too could form a practice group in order to celebrate nonviolence?   It will change your life – particularly your communications skills.

The workbook is available from Amazon:


How do you celebrate nonviolence in your life?  Looking forward to your great words of sharing:

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21 Responses to “Food for Thought Holiday”

  1. Patricia Says:

    I did not get Dr. Rosenberg’s book on the site – It is amazing and I use it a great deal. Lucy Leu is a certified counselor and mediator who works with Dr. Rosenberg and in the prison systems of our state – she is also a parent and her work is amazing too.

  2. suzen Says:

    Hi Patricia! Oh I love your response “food for thought day”! I think the day is a reminder to work toward peace in whatever capacity you can create or become a part of.
    (too funny about Lucy Leu since my puppy’s name is LucyLu) The book just went on my must read list – thanks!
    hugs
    suZen

    Patricia Reply:

    Suzen,
    This book and Lucy’s workbook are amazing….and NVC applies to every aspect of one’s life – including finances for me and my self-talk about food and health

    Very amazing stuff

  3. Mandy Allen Says:

    Hi Patricia, another book for my ‘to read’ list too! I love the language you use, one great contradiction is the phrase ‘fighting for peace’, don’t you think?

    Enjoy the journey.

    Mandy
    .-= Mandy Allen´s last blog ..A New Year Begins =-.

    Patricia Reply:

    Mandy,
    Other than the word fighting yep I think it is about breathing deeply from the inside out and being peace in breathing, living, thinking, speaking and actions…

    I think though one needs to be PEACE with their own style – it certainly does not mean like a wimpy doormat – doormats have a task to do too

    I would consider this book or these books to be MUST reads and practice books

    It is a journey to learn to think and speak this way, but so worth it.

  4. Talon Says:

    I can’t think of a more non-violent person than you, Patricia. You just radiate thoughtfulness and peacefulness through your words and actions…
    .-= Talon´s last blog ..Just whos responsible =-.

    Patricia Reply:

    Talon,
    I just keep practicing and practicing – I am hardest on myself particularly violent against my body and my relationship to money.

    Several health practitioners here have gone to just asking for “donations” for health care – did their service meet your health needs and would you please help pay for equipment and office space for them to get their skill to you?

    Understanding NEEDS is truly vital in the process.

    I find it easier to be NVC compatible when I write than in the heat of the moment….and when I am mediating a situation it is often overwhelming when I absorb others emotions ( good for counseling not for this work)

    Thank you for your generous words.
    A work in progress

  5. vered | blogger for hire Says:

    Thank you for the book recommendation – I’ll check it out.
    .-= vered | blogger for hire´s last blog ..Online Friendships Suck =-.

    Patricia Reply:

    Vered,
    This was so powerful to teach my children, I think it took so much pain and upset (violence) out of the separation processes of those teenage years, even with my youngest for which we had to hire a mediator to meet with weekly to get her through high school and she was still very, very noisy in transition.

    There is a teacher in California, Holly Hobbie who designs greeting cards for American Greeting Cards under that name, who uses NVC totally in her classrooms – she has written a number of pamphlet style books to go along with this material.

    I think you would truly like this information.

  6. Hilary Says:

    Hi Patricia .. great post – and so true .. food to think time – we need to fuel up with the words we need to hear, feel and understand ..

    focus, compassion, self-discipline, helping others, smile, be happy .. and I’m sure many more ..

    Sleep for me!! Not forthcoming just yet – patience to get the wisdom needed to be one’s best as often as possible ..

    Look after yourself .. cheers Hilary
    .-= Hilary´s last blog ..Guide Books- Queries – Publishers and Authors- Mariana Starke- Baedeker- Murray- Ward &amp Lock- Wainwright late 1700s to mid 1900s =-.

    Patricia Reply:

    Hilary,
    This is amazing stuff – I can not say that enough and I do think it could change the world.

    I am trying to figure out how to write a grant to get NVC taught in all the public schools especially for single parents and low income, I think it could keep a large number of folks out of the criminal justice system and help our children grow strong and health into the next century.

    What a difference it would make in our world .

    You take care too

  7. Jannie Funster Says:

    Yes, another one for the book pile.

    It really does all happen within, indeed. Always great to put the self judge to sleep, makes it impossible to judge others when we love ourselves unconditionally! When I’m gentle and sweet to me, being the same with others is a given.

    xxoo
    .-= Jannie Funster´s last blog ..A Burger Kind Of Blogger =-.

    Patricia Reply:

    Jannie,
    I think as your kiddo approaches the teen years you might truly find this book or books a worthwhile investment.

    Dr. Rosenberg was always told not to sing, when he started working and speaking this way he also got a small guitar and began singing at his lectures and workshops – he has written a whole CD

    Teaching PEACE by Red Grammer is also a CD based on these concepts.

  8. Antonia Says:

    Love your ‘food for thought’! What lucky kids to receive such wise, compassionate and Loving guidance. Thanks for the great book recommendation. Blessings upon your healing journey.

    Patricia Reply:

    Thank you for coming by Antonia, and I am glad I could share a great book with you – it will make a powerful difference in your life – amazing stuff.

    We had sunshine today – healing journey feels positive when I can walk in the sunshine.

  9. Liara Covert Says:

    Check this Esther Hicks perspective about Martin Luther King out: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kBB5UzdO5es
    .-= Liara Covert´s last blog ..You are more =-.

    Patricia Reply:

    Liara,
    I am on it…Thank you for the referral
    Thinking Alaska this morning as it is cold and sunny here

    Patricia Reply:

    I think after seeing the video I would say that Rosenberg is living out the dream of nonviolence –

  10. Arts Web Show Says:

    I understand the best way to be non violent is to be detached, walk away from conflict before it arises.
    Usually works for me. lol

  11. Sara Says:

    Patricia — What a perfect post for you to write. It fit’s you:~)

    I appreciate the information about Dr. Rosenberg’s book. It sounds like an excellent book to have and one that you could go to when you’re feel a bit non-nonviolent about something:~)

    I think some conflicts have to be addressed, but as you stated, it’s how we do it that’s important. I used to get angry A LOT and I’ve learned over time to step back and look at my anger and it’s from in me. This has helped me greatly to calm down and not just react.

    I think conflict can be resolved by staying calm and not engaging the in other person’s anger. Sometimes this is hard, but it does seem to work better than the other option.

    Great post and thank you:~0
    .-= Sara´s last blog ..Children of the Holocaust =-.

    Patricia Reply:

    Sara,
    I thank you for adding to the conversation and I think this work is life changing towards compassionate communication and living –
    Yes, I have found that I must separate myself from the source of the anger or other emotions in order to remove the violence.

    After working with Dr. Rosenberg’s material for so long I am amazed at how violent our everyday language is and how even more violent it is becoming. When one listens to children and knows that there is no understanding or history behind those words YET….if just overwhelms me at times.

    I highly recommend these books, many of us have come to this understanding with care and time, but I think we need to start sharing it with younger folks now too.

    Oh if we could start children out this way….what a different world it could be