This past weekend was the huge wedding of Chelsea Clinton, daughter of the Current Secretary of State and a former President of the United States. The newscasters are celebrating with flair and the little town in New York State is apparently delighted with all the congestion and publicity surrounding the event.
Our small city had a lovely, intimate and beautiful wedding too – without all the fanfare and whoopla.
It was a beautiful event that displayed a great deal of planning, care and love which had been extended to even the smallest of details. The sun burned off the marine cloud layer and it was warm but not hot, and the tide came in so the view beyond the trees was stunning.
150 guests came from all around the world including Paris, London and Tokyo. Grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins and so many college friends/ work friends all turned out in their finery. It was a formal wedding in a lovely terraced setting.
Officiating the wedding was a pure pleasure. Although the bride and groom are living in New York City, the internet made our pre –wedding conferencing easy and actually by writing things down I was provided a great deal of clarity. The bride wanted her theme to be elegant and for everyone to enjoy the time together. The groom wanted the event to emphasize family and connections. We wrote that all into the ceremony and they were able to edit and approve, rewrite and revise to their hearts content.
After 34 years of participating and writing these original weddings I have to tell you that the words do not truly matter to the bride and groom – this couple wrote stunning vows and memorized them just for each other to hear.
The words matter to the Fathers and Mothers and the people gathered. They appreciate the beauty of the setting and the lovely well heeled style of the bridal party, but it is the people gathered who want the words.
I gave them beautiful words and spoke to those who were truly listening. There were lots and lots of tears, hand squeezes and hugs. 7 of the attendants asked me how I came up with the ceremony. A couple from New England asked me if I travelled to do ceremonies because their daughter was getting married next year. The musicians complimented me on the experience, and I was greeted and acknowledged by nearly every guest present.
I am the Vera Wang of wedding ceremonies; I speak the truth to you in love.
And now my favorite moment of this wedding:
The two nieces of the groom were set to be flower girls in the procession. As we began the rehearsal, this dynamic duo stopped twirling their sundresses and began tapping their new white shoes down the steps to the lower grassy terrace. On the way down was encountered a lovely garter snake enjoying the rays of sunshine. Immediately two little girls squatted to observe and enjoy this new found discovery. Nothing quite like it at home!
The Mother of the bride in her past life was a teacher and those instincts just kicked in; watching three students discuss and enjoy that critter – undisturbed focus – was a moment full of delight. I knew that Mother was remembering those treasured moments with her own daughter and all the effort, preparation and exhaustion just slid away in that clarity only the heart knows.
Too soon the snake s-curved away and the legions of participants arrived; the rehearsal commenced.
Who do you think the words are for at a wedding? Do you have a favorite moment from weddings you have attended? Have you experienced a time when you and your skill/talent was greatly appreciated?
Looking forward to your very much appreciated comments.
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