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Glasses and Book

Every once in a while I see some words that just stand out for me – they make me think; they cause a response; they just keep hanging in my mind.

These two statements arrived in my life on the same day and I wanted to share them with you, as they have become a part of my thoughts and contemplations.

I would like to know what you think about them?

Bumper Sticker (Military Hospital Parking Lot- Veteran tag on car):
No soldier who has been to war comes home unwounded.

And from Frances Mayes in her book Everyday in Tuscany,  where she is talking about why she moved to North Carolina from San Francisco:

“Close calls with violence –they’re microcosms. We are well into the 21st Century and still resort to Barbarian wars. “

“When someone picks up the stick, someone else has less control over life.  Post Traumatic Stress must be the most underestimated affliction on earth.  How people go miraculously on after the Warsaw Ghetto, the streets of Baghdad, and other horrors, defies psychology.”

I would really like to know what you think about these ideas.   Do you think they are true?  Do you think PTSD is an epidemic?    Do you think we will stop having wars?   What do you think on these things?

Looking forward to your comments and additions to the discussion.

Related Reading:

PTSD – Part I
PTSD – Part II  Who Gets IT
PTSD – Part III Who Do You Trust? – Reviving an old Game
PTSD – Part IV The Big Picture for Healing
PTSD – Part V  My Conclusions

21 Responses to “WISE WORDS”

  1. Dot Says:

    “No soldier who has been to war comes home unwounded.” — Absolutely true. From the time I spent with a number of vets after Vietnam, I believe that.

    Will we ever stop warring? I doubt it. America is shockingly violent, and now we have good reason to defend ourselves against violence as well. There’s plenty in other places, too. We don’t seem to look to any place that’s non-violent for an example, either.

  2. Jannie Funster Says:

    Wars will end some day, but I don’t believe it will be in my lifetime or my daughter’s, or as a result of any peace talks. Those bred to kill know nothing else. God will stop wars as His plan of peace and love unfolds.

    And good news — there is no war in my city or my mind today and the sun is shining!

    .-= Jannie Funster´s last blog ..Crazy Bananas: Funny Keyword Searches, 8 =-.

  3. Talon Says:

    It seems that as long as someone has something that someone else wants, there will be conflicts. Tragic, really. But it seems our history shows that there has been conflict upon conflict and the only times that were peaceful was when there was a common enemy that united (if only temporarily) warring factions.

    I think we’ve become desenstized to violence in a lot of instances. But is PTSD prevalent? I can’t imagine a truly caring soul could bear witness to atrocities and not be changed and affected on some very deep level. It has to change the essence of who you are.
    .-= Talon´s last blog ..Ever evolving… =-.

  4. Barbara Swafford Says:

    Hi Patricia,

    The bumper sticker: “No soldier who has been to war comes home unwounded.” is very true. Sadly if others see war veterans without physical wounds some think all is fine in their life, when in truth, the emotional wounds can haunt them forever.
    .-= Barbara Swafford´s last blog ..Now What? =-.

  5. Patricia Says:

    I believe we must find a way to tone down the violence in our world.
    Thank you for your thoughts and ideas – greatly appreciated
    .-= Patricia´s last blog ..WISE WORDS =-.

  6. Patricia Says:

    I am hoping that we can have some impact on slowing down the violence within my lifetime. I lost so many friends in Viet Nam and those who came home were so changed. I think the problems now are even larger. Glad your city is calm and sunny.

  7. Patricia Says:

    A very large number of veterans in my area are saying the PTSD is epidemic – and since I live so close to a Military complex – well many – I would have to say this is true. I hope to be more helpful in the very near future. I keep working on training in this area.

    I think you are correct about changing one’s essence. I do not want to just respond….I want to turn it down at least.

  8. Patricia Says:

    I think we are doing a better job than after Viet Nam, but I wonder if we will ever learn?

    Too much dis-trust and hate in the world….Hope Greg Mortenson (Three Cups of Tea) can keep helping us learn new ways and build new learning sites.

  9. suzen Says:

    Hi Patricia!
    My son was in Iraq and Afghanistan and 6 years served in all. He came home to us but will never be the same. With my association with military families thru the support group I started years ago, I know this PTSD thing is indeed very real and very common.

    There have always been wars and as idyllic as it would be NOT to have them, I can’t imagine that time coming.


  10. vered | blogger for hire Says:

    Sadly, I don’t think we will stop having wars. Humans have always engaged in wars. We will stop having wars when kids stop fighting with each other, when there’s no more jealousy and competition and the need to get more than the other has and to prove that we are “right” and they are “wrong.”

    Perhaps I’m being overly pessimistic, or short-sighted. Perhaps humans will continue evolving and get to a place where they truly are able to share and to co-exist peacefully. But judging from history and from simple observations in human nature, we’re bot there, and I doubt we’ll ever get there.
    .-= vered | blogger for hire´s last blog ..Shiny Happy People (Stock Photography Rant) =-.

  11. Patricia Says:

    I am hoping we can all start imagining a time with out war….I can hardly believe the difference in the Veteran’s coming home after so many tours of duty….families are reeling I am so glad you have a support group.

  12. Patricia Says:

    I am hoping that we keep trying and trying and learning more and more….Just the difference in my own children who learned Nonviolent Communications-Compassionate Communications in elementary school has made such a difference in their lives and attitude. If we could just cut the violence against women and children in this world by 40%….I can not lose hope It is an important part of my Mothering

  13. Davina Says:

    Hi Patricia.
    I too don’t see an end to wars, unfortunately. Conflict seems to be a part of human nature. But then again, anything is possible…
    .-= Davina´s last blog ..This is How You Don’t Skip Rocks =-.

  14. Tony Single Says:

    Patricia, there have been many times in my life when I have been at war with myself, just churning with emotional sickness inside… so I have to say that it doesn’t surprise me that there has been war all throughout the history of people.

    Honestly, if people were more happy with themselves and each other, and happy with how things are rather than churning for what isn’t, then surely there would be no wars at all. Perhaps I’m oversimplifying, but I fully believe that great evil (war) can slowly grow from the most mundane aspects of life (people’s disatisfaction with themselves).

    Well, it’s a theory anyways.

  15. Lisa@Practically Intuitive Says:

    Hi Patricia,

    The message on that sticker is a serious one and it breaks my heart, truly, to see this happen. Yes, it’s always happened but there’s so much more traumatic brain injuries now and that’s a disease that doesn’t “look” like a disease so it really goes under the radar. And that has a devastating effect on the soldier and his family.

    So often, I’ve thought to go to Walter Reed Army Hospital near DC and just give Reiki or some sort of energetic healing to as many as I’m guided to. As an empath, I’m going to have to shore up my energetic field because it’s not going to be easy. That’s part of what holds me back yet I know it is there for me to do.

    Thank you for the thoughtful post.
    .-= Lisa@Practically Intuitive´s last blog ..Just 1% =-.

  16. Hilary Says:

    Hi Patricia .. we seem to be humans of conflict .. we never seem to be able to see the other point of view – yes some dictators are terrible .. and life must be awful. Post Traumatic Stress .. must be very difficult to live with .. in this day and age when we encourage people to open up .. previously we had to get on with it & the old soldiers did get on with it.

    I don’t think I’d like to be a man & put into a war zone .. I sincerely hope we can bring peace to the world .. and leave a world that the future generations can enjoy – or at least set examples for them to follow.

    The dictators of the world who control their peoples & are isolated, or partly isolated .. the word will get through somehow – sometime .. the world order is changing .. and we need to influence it for the better.

    Thanks for reminding us of these things .. Have a good week .. Hilary
    .-= Hilary´s last blog ..Ever Thought of a Map as an Encyclopedia? =-.

  17. Patricia Says:

    Yes, I too think Conflict is a part of human nature and nature itself, I just think we need new forms of conflict which do not pollute the earth, the atmosphere, and damage minds and futures.

    Yes sir I think all wars start from dissatisfaction with the self….and hunger… Plants and Animals conflict – they even form gangs and kill off their young which are deformed and not able to survive. We have locked up millions of people in prisons and tried to ban abortions…and still we control the numbers of people in the world by killing them off…TRADITION! (sung as from Fiddler on the Roof)

    I absorb other people’s feelings and emotions….going to a football game with folks yelling in pleasure and anger is often too much for me…..doing hospital visits exhausts me and with this Adrenal Fatigue I am unable to go right now. As a society we need to change. I feel like I am back to Transcendentalism as expressed by Emerson and Thoreau…and yet hopeless

    In the good old days people were maimed and damaged but now we understand the brain damage that occurs and the psychological damage and the problems that those problems bring home to our communities and families….yet we still glamorize war …..it is still out most radical form of birth control

  18. Lisa@Practically Intuitive Says:

    Patricia, dare I say you’re an empath? (Me too) That’s why it exhausts you. I have trouble with large crowds myself and if I’m in a room with lots of emotion going on – yikes!!

    I do consciously work to close my energy field a lot so that I’m not picking up everyone’s stuff. Most days it works! :-)

  19. Patricia Says:

    I am just now learning how to close my energy field and get control, and each time I do better I lose some more weight – no lie.

    But I need plenty of time away from folks and on my own.
    Thanks for the good words

  20. Barb Hartsook Says:

    Hi Patricia. Vera is right — since the beginning of man we have warred. One human assuming the right to control another human, when it isn’t his right at all.

    When will it end? There, I think Jannie is right.

    My uncle came home from Korea without a leg. He did come home, but he had lost his wonderful spirit as well. And he was just one of thousands and thousands, many of those thousands just from the Twin Towers (and related) massacre a few years ago……. My heart breaks for them all.

    .-= Barb Hartsook´s last blog ..Study Dates Then and Now =-.

  21. Patricia Says:

    My heart breaks for them all – I still dream it could be different…

    Nonviolent Communications/Compassionate Communications gives me hope ( system of conflict resolution for the 21st Century by Dr. Marshall Rosenberg)

    Nice to find you here – thank you
    .-= Patricia´s last blog ..Savannah Blues: A Novel ~Mary Kay Andrews =-.