Comments on: E-Book Review: Narcissist: A User’s Guide

By: Lori Hoeck

Lori Hoeck — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 20:41:10 +0000

Thank you all for your kind comments on the e-book and review! It’s wonderful to read it’s already helping so many.

Hi Dot,
Glad you made it through that tough time. While writing the e-book, Betsy and I both went through some emotional times re-visiting those past relationships. So did some early readers, so I understand it can stir up a lot. Thank you for calling our work “the real deal” — we distilled a lot of experience into it!
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By: Patricia

Patricia — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 18:56:07 +0000

Dot,
Thank you for your good words about the book and your recovery and thank you for your compliment about the review – I consider that high praise coming from you -

By: Dot

Dot — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 18:53:42 +0000

Excellent review! This is similar to (but better than) the review I would have written if I had reviewed this book. However, reading it brought up so many bad memories and so much fear inside me relating to my second marriage that I decided to move on to happeir things. But don’t let that stop anyone else from reading it — it’s the real deal.

Having a good deal of experience with abusive people, as well as being one of, and knowing a lot of, their victims, I would say that this book will definitely help you recognize and cope with this type of abusive person. While they may be charming and attractive at first, soon you realize that being around them makes you feel awful and your self-esteem is being eroded on a daily basis. Such a “toxic” person need not be a part of your life — read the book and learn how to cope.

By: Patricia

Patricia — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 18:53:00 +0000

Hilary,
I think it would take roof sitting or an airplane to see in my wee nesty overhead. We too are having sunshine today and I do feel better for it

Jannie,
a very good introduction – I thought it worth putting the word out again.

By: Jannie Funster

Jannie Funster — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 16:48:05 +0000

Another hearty thumbs-up from me!!!

I didn’t even know I had been in the grips of a narcissist until I read this. I just loved this e-book, and it freed me so. A sturdy nest indeed!!
xo
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By: Hilary

Hilary — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 07:24:05 +0000

Hi Patricia .. I thought it was a little too perfect – but even so – you could have seen it thru binoculas, or with a good camera long range .. so I just thought how lucky you could follow the development etc and see the birds flying around. A friend of my mother’s in Wales mentioned she’d put bird feeders outside the windows of her flat and she was enjoying them .. as has Sara .. so I’m thinking about them being close in and personal! Enjoy the thought! Lovely and sunny here .. thank goodness .. feel a little better if nothing else I hope for you .. Hilary
.-= Hilary´s last blog ..The Middle Ages of the web – ancient pathways, monastic steps, St David yesterday, St Chad today and lines of communication … =-.

By: patricia

patricia — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 01:34:28 +0000

Vered,
The book is empowering…
One of my daughters experienced a teacher who was a Narcissist in about 4-5th grade. The teacher was excellent at getting the kids learning all the material because she wanted to look good and have her class score well. But when you did not do what she wanted she was awful to the child. My kiddo stood up to her day after day and has developed an amazing strength of character from the experience, but we were all so happy when the other teacher took over her section of the class ( 2 teachers sharing a 4-5th classroom) I do not think that teacher made all the children strong.

By: patricia

patricia — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 01:28:37 +0000

Lori,
A good book and well written.” Once we awaken to our inner worth and well-being, the narcissist has trouble making a foothold in our hearts and minds. ” This is oh so true…

Davina is a good teacher of how to enjoy being in your own skin and I think Tess must be grand at it…..:)

By: patricia

patricia — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 01:26:14 +0000

Davina,
It takes all kinds to make a world and I think all kinds of people can be kind even when the spirit has been broken in some way – Yes even people who are non-narcissistic can be not nice people. That gut response is an important signal not to ignore

By: patricia

patricia — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 01:23:42 +0000

Mama Zen,
Thank you