Comments on: Vows Another Word for Promises

By: Patricia

Patricia — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 20:03:58 +0000

Davina,
I think you are correct that couples needs to constantly keep evaluating their promises to each other and their commitments, it is not just a one shot deal!

Bunny,
The truth will set you free – lies and omissions just are so telling and interfering with success. To be hurt is a state that can be healed, but to be not trusted or respected is not repairable.

By: bunnygotblog

bunnygotblog — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 17:52:34 +0000

Hi- I think the vows start long before the actual ceremony. Trust and Truth is essential with vows. A lie is very damaging, it hurts more then the truth.When a person lies the trust is gone. Very good article, Patrica. bunnygotblogs last blog post..Advertising Towards Dummies

By: Davina

Davina — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 07:37:54 +0000

Hi Patricia. These were all lovely. My favourite was the first one by Kahlil Gibran -- it is so poetic. Vows can be deceiving when people say them. It can feel as if they are giving the power to the vow itself and that because they've said the vow, they are under its influence. My feeling is that as couples we have to reconnect with ourselves consistently and be aware of the unspoken vows. We change and grow at different speeds and not always in unison. Now, I've never been married (ahem), so I'm definitely not an expert, but this is what my gut is telling me. Davinas last blog post..365 Days & Still Blogging

By: Patricia

Patricia — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 01:41:36 +0000

Chania Girl,
June is a big month for weddings and ceremony. I just thought I would use some of the material that I research for the workbook I was writing for my church.
If you belong to a religious community already, then the service of that community has a depth of meaning for you that owns it’s own history – more sacred is the covenant.

Promises are lightly taken these days in so many areas of our lives.

I am glad if this series is touching base with you and yours – Makes it a great deal more fun!

By: Chania Girl

Chania Girl — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 01:00:08 +0000

You have chosen a theme for your blog posts lately so in keeping with what is actually happening in my real life. My fiance and I will be married next June, and I am very much a traditionalist when it comes to vows, and I am eager to use the order of the Anglican service for our wedding ceremony ... even including, if I can, "plight thee my troth." I think it's important that we promise these things to each other that may seem so difficult or out of reach. It is this promise, more than the feelings of love (which come and go based on the day and our moods), that binds us to each other and encourages us to go on honoring something beyond ourselves yet very much apart of ourselves. You are right to point out how lightly, though, these promises are taken in today's society and how little so many people regard not just the marriage contract but the marriage COVENANT. Love is so much more than a fluttery feeling and the excitement of the glitz and glamor on the big wedding day. Chania Girls last blog post..Under Heaven

By: Patricia

Patricia — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 23:00:53 +0000

JD
Thank you.

By: Patricia

Patricia — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 22:59:18 +0000

Cricket-Tammy,
Love is important. Ironically I just got off the phone with someone who wanted a minister to get her sister married to the father of their child. I shared as much information that I had to share, but could not do the service as I will be in Scotland. Didn’t make the promises or commitment – that is the trend these days.

It takes the Romance, blessings, love, and spirit out of the experience for me!

Love will come in just the perfecting timing – I know it.

By: J.D. Meier

J.D. Meier — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 22:40:08 +0000

I really like the moving sea between the shores of your souls. J.D. Meiers last blog post..Information x Focus = Personal Reality

By: Cricket-Tammy

Cricket-Tammy — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 20:59:58 +0000

Oh, how sweet this is Patricia. One day...one day I hope to be able to say such words. I really do feel vows are important. I think when they are personal that adds to the promise somehow. I think this is why I am attracted to old love letters. I just enjoy reading something that the love jumps off the page. In the living room of my home I have a picture hanging that that belonged to my grandmother. The picture contains a letter in which my grandfather first mentions marriage to her. Love is huge and love is real. That is good. Cricket-Tammys last blog post..In Hiding...that's all

By: Patricia

Patricia — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 20:19:57 +0000

Julie,
Love is the solution to just about everything and it is so powerful and amazing to work at and behold.

I love writing vows for people after interviewing them and then coming up with just the words that they wish to say aloud and remember in the day. My best compliment is when the couple says, “Yes, that is just what I want to say …” I usually mix a bit of the poetic into the pie…
My partner and I read our vows to each other every anniversary and then make plans for how we are going to implement them into our new year together.
Thank you for coming by and you wonderful comments