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How We Met Entry #3

Alex Fayle is the author of the third entry of the Contest and I am so happy he shared his story.

Alex is the writer of the blog Someday Syndrome and a published novelist. His blog is about how he gave up his “I’ll do it Someday” attitude and started living his dream and making it come true.

On his About page Alex says:

You see, when I was twelve years old, I made a decision to live in Europe and write fiction. So off my soul went to find that dream, while I went to school, got a job, and bought a house in the city.
And so my soul got lost on the Someday Sea, waiting for me to catch up to it.
Then one day, I woke up to the ache I felt where my soul should have been. So, I walked away from everything: from a budding career as a Professional Organizer and as President of Professional Organizers in Canada, from my house, my cats, my friend and from my family – all to go find my missing soul
I found it, as well as my writing dream and love in northern Spain, where I now write for a living, as I always wanted to.

I always find good information and insight on Alex’s Blog and am encouraged that he writes and makes a living.

Without further introduction here is Alex’s entry:

Loving Myself, Loving Raul

My story back when I was twelve-years-old. I had decided I was going to live in southern Europe and write. It always felt wrong that I was unilingual and as much as I enjoyed snow, winters weren’t my thing.

I did the whole school, job, house and dating on and off thing, but never felt secure about myself. How could I when I was denying myself my real dream of being a writer? I was often sad and insecure about everything in my life, especially in my relationships.

Fast forward to my mid-30s. I had started my own business and owned a home for nearly a decade. And yet I still wasn’t happy and didn’t trust others a whole lot.

Then in May 2006 a friend decided to leave Canada for a round-the-world trip and I expressed my envy. She asked me what I really wanted to do – with a little push and the help of some great Zinfandel I admitted my French writing dream and she said: “So why aren’t you?”

I couldn’t answer her. And because I couldn’t answer her, I realized there was no reason.

Within two weeks the house was on the market and mid-August 2006 I was on the plane to a small village in SW France where a distant cousin lived. During the eight months I lived there, for the first time in my life I felt really confident and happy. I wrote a novel and discovered myself.

I had spent New Years in Barcelona where I feel in love with Spain, so when my lease was up in France I moved to Spain traveling around organic farms doing work in exchange for room and board. In June 2007 while deciding whether to go to Bilbao or San Sebastian to celebrate Toronto’s Gay Pride Day I started chatting online with a guy, called Raul, from San Sebastian and he said that the city was having a Pride Party I should check out.

I almost didn’t go because the road out of the village was scary at night, but in the end I let Raul convince me. I arrived and he was waiting in the entrance area. Our eyes met and locked. I felt a thunk in my chest and knew that Cupid had just struck. I spoke next to no Spanish and he very little English, but it didn’t matter. We had a different type of connection happening.

The next morning, Raul complained about how friends had backed out of going to EuroPride in Madrid the next weekend. I took a BIG breath and invited myself along. He freaked a bit and obviously thought I was crazy but then the next day sent me a text saying “my friends say you can stay there too.”

By the end of that weekend we were deeply in love and I moved to San Sebastian four months later. After falling in love with myself, I had finally let someone else love me too.

Alex’s book can be purchased on the Someday Syndrome website!

24 Responses to “How We Met Entry #3”

  1. Betsy Wuebker Says:

    After falling in love with myself, I had finally let someone else love me too.

    That just had to be posted again. Beautiful! Thanks, Alex and Patricia.

    Betsy Wuebkers last blog post..FROM THE ROAD: NEW FRIENDS AND OLD TREES

  2. Dot Says:

    What Betsy said. It seems like the first step is required for the second step to happen. Nice story, Alex and Patricia.

    Dots last blog post..Creating a Household Notebook

  3. Patricia Says:

    Betsy and Dot,
    These stories are so wonderful, I just had to share them with everyone. Thank you for your good comments and adding to this contest experience.
    You can see why the judges had such a hard time making choices?
    Patricia

  4. Andy Hayes Says:

    How cute! :-) I’m glad you found each other.

    Andy Hayess last blog post..Mini-Retreats, Creativity, and Insipration with Zoe Westhof

  5. Mark Says:

    Great story, thanks for sharing your experience and lessons!

    Marks last blog post..Wisdom Snobbery

  6. patricia Says:

    Andy,
    I have been thinking about you all morning nice to have you drop on by and comment. It is a great story told by a wonder full story teller.
    Wondering if you have ever been to Glacier Bay National Park in Alaska…a very interesting place to write about and they are offering phenomena deals this summer?
    I get so excited about traveling when I read your blog.

  7. patricia Says:

    Mark,
    Thank you for coming by and commenting. These have been such good stories – I just had to share them.

    I think one more story is coming in on The Divorce and one more on the Married secrets.

    The writing has been so great.

  8. Kelly Says:

    Alex,

    Ah, I only knew the abridged version of this tale. It’s even more special told like this. Like Betsy, I think that last line is gold.

    Patricia,

    You’ve gathered some very precious happy endings here. Thanks for posting these stories!

    Regards,

    Kelly

    Kellys last blog post..Can You Make Me LOL?

  9. Patricia Says:

    Kelly,
    I just had to share these stories – they are so good. Thank you for your nice comments.

    Patricias last blog post..How We Met Entry #3

  10. Vered - MomGrind Says:

    “After falling in love with myself, I had finally let someone else love me too.” Like others, I love this sentence too. It is beautiful, and so true.

    Vered – MomGrinds last blog post..10 Ways To Love Yourself As A Woman

  11. Barbara Swafford Says:

    Hi Patricia,

    Alex and his Someday Syndrome are making the rounds in blogosphere. I just left my blog, where he’s the substitute teacher, and then I came here, and here he is again.

    I love the lessons Alex teaches on his blog. With lines like his closing one, it’s no wonder he’s a published author. Good stuff!

    Barbara Swaffords last blog post..How to Write to Blog Lurkers

  12. Patricia Says:

    Vered,
    Just lovely writing. Thank you for stopping by and making a comment – so appreciated

    Barbara,
    Yes we both have beautiful words by Alex today – now aren’t we just the lucky ones!

  13. Jannie Funster Says:

    I too have been blessed with that mutual “thunk” in the chest and it’s a mighty fine thing indeed!

    How absolutely wonderful when we just go for our dreams, like selling our house and up and moving overseas, pushing past our fears and risking all to discover the greatness that lies within ourselves. And with the love bonus – how amazing is that!

    Such an uplifting story. Bravo!

    Jannie Funsters last blog post..Another chance!

  14. Patricia Says:

    Jannie,
    You have been blessed! indeedy! It is an uplifting story

  15. Liara Covert Says:

    When you choose to listen to intuition, listen to the lvoe in your heart, then nothing else matters anymore. You redefine the meaning of existence. Some people would say you reconnect with soul, with the core purpose of being. Thanks for this!

    Liara Coverts last blog post..Watch "Hugs for the world"

  16. Jeanne Says:

    Patricia,

    Wow! It’s a small world. You just left a lovely comment on my blog and I am now here and what do I find… but this beautiful story featuring Alex Fayle’s story and a link to his Someday Syndrome.

    I recently found his blog from a tweet sent out by Dorian (aka @coffeesister on twitter). Dorian had been interviewed by Alex Fayle in a moving chronic illness post that I then tweeted and retweeted on twitter because it was so good. (I believe it was a May 18th post).

    In any event, as a previous commenter noted… the Someday Syndrome blog is buzzing.

    The story above is inspirational on so many levels… following your dreams, overcoming fears, taking chances, and following your gut.

    I have to agree with commenters above that this quote (“After falling in love with myself, I had finally let someone else love me too”) beautifully captures a very important concept that too many people never really learn.

    Congrats to Alex Fayle on finding his dream job and happiness with Raul. What a great story!

    Thanks for posting this, Patricia!

    Jeannes last blog post..Endometriosis and Fibromyalgia

  17. Tom Volkar / Delightful Work Says:

    Alex tells the story like the love still flourishes. I guess that’s what I like the best about it – that and the fact that he followed his gut to go. Our hunches are there for good reason.

    Tom Volkar / Delightful Works last blog post..Five Disturbing Ways To Make More Money

  18. Mariangeles_spain Says:

    I’m just speechless right now. Love the story!!!

    I’m glad you’re happy in Spain, so am I!!!! :o)

    Mariangeles_spains last blog post..A 2.5" circular mini with the first pics of Claudia, my friend’s baby girl.

  19. patricia Says:

    Jeanne,
    Thank you for your comments and dropping by – welcome. I very much enjoy Alex’s writing – here’s another synchronicity of sorts: Elizabeth who wrote contest entry #2 posted here, is Alex’s sister.

    Definitely beautiful writing runs in their family.

    Tom,
    Thank you for coming on by and making such a good observation. Those hunches are very good things.

    Mariangeles,
    Happy in Spain – awe that sounds so wonderful! Welcome to the site, Alex’s writing is just wonderful. I am so thankful he decided to share this piece of his work with me.

  20. Patricia Says:

    Liara,
    Your comment today went into moderation – sorry I have having reader troubles….but glad to find you here now…

    I believe Alex would agree with your ideas about intuition and listening to the whole self.

  21. Alex Fayle | Someday Syndrome Says:

    @Patricia
    Thank you for sharing the story with your readres. I feel honoured that you felt it was something worth sharing.

    @Betsy
    I’m glad you enjoyed the piece and I’m glad I learned that lesson (finally!) 😉

    @Dot
    And fortunately I’ve found someone who makes it even easier to love myself!

    @Andy
    I’m glad too!

    @Mark
    I’m all about sharing experiences – especially if it can help others.

    @Kelly
    I agree that Patricia’s stories are gold. Of course my personal favourite would be my sister’s (the Urban Panther) but then again I’m biased that way. 😉

    @Vered
    It’s amazing how such a simple (almost cliche) sentence is so difficult to learn and yet when we do it has such a huge effect.

    @Barbara
    It’s my goal to following in the footsteps of James of Men with Pens and take over the blogosphere. Thanks for the support!

    @Jannie
    Far too few people take the risks that create great happiness because they’re afraid of failing and yet look at the rewards when we do.

    @Liara
    Intuition is indeed the key – and although sometimes I wish I had listened to my intuition earlier, along the way I learned a bunch of other good things that have helped create who I am now and I wouldn’t change that.

    @Jeanne
    I’m really glad you found inspiration in Dorian’s interview and that you also found this story inspirational – because inspiration is exactly what I want to pass along to people!

    @Tom
    It doesn’t just flourish – it continues to grow every day, both for Raul and for Spain.

    @Mariangeles
    On my first night in Spain, I feel in love with it and never wanted to leave.

    Alex Fayle | Someday Syndromes last blog post..Are You Working Yourself Too Hard?

  22. Patricia Says:

    Alex,
    This was a lovely gift – thank you and my stats say about 336 new lurkers came by and read your post – Thank you for that too, cause they went on to look at least 2 more posts while here!

  23. Cath Lawson Says:

    Hi Patricia and Alex – What an awesome story. I did not realise how Alex and Raul met. The way he made the move to France in only two weeks is very inspiring.

  24. Patricia Says:

    Cath,
    It is an awesome story and inspiring