Comments on: Increase Your Emotional IQ

By: Patricia

Patricia — Tue, 16 Mar 2010 18:14:19 +0000

Kay,
I think the judge was right. Counselors and Mediators are discovering that large numbers of people have no emotional knowledge or how to use their emotions. It is like denying one has feet!

I think the current generation has been served a huge disadvantage but not understanding and thinking the cold wealthy image in the movies is success – now there is a lot of 30 somethings looking for meaning in life.
.-= Patricia´s last blog ..Embracing This Change =-.

By: Kay Lilland

Kay Lilland — Tue, 16 Mar 2010 16:24:26 +0000

Your phrase “emotional IQ” reminds me of a book by TV’s Divorce Court judge (Lynn Toler) who, before shewas a TV judge published “My Mother’s Rules: A practical Guide to Becoming an Emotional Genius” It’s worth a stop at the library.

By: patricia

patricia — Wed, 11 Feb 2009 03:04:03 +0000

Jannie,
I have never found anyone to be totally awful or totally perfected in their behaviors and an anthropologist in the area once said to her son,”I did the very best I could with the knowledge that I had at the time, when I learned to do it better it did. My intention was always that you would know that I loved you deeply.”

I keep that phrase in my line of vision most of the time.

It is all good the lessons, the actions the thoughts.
You are one amazing woman. thank you

By: Jannie Funster

Jannie Funster — Wed, 11 Feb 2009 02:40:30 +0000

Thanks, Patricia. I have not really divulged the negative aspects of my upbringing to other bloggers ( I feel very safe here with your, and of course you are a healer. And very knowing. And wise.) Anyone can read my comment here and may one day but I feel no shame in any of my truths. And my parents, God love them , who are soooo wonderful in soooo many ways were only acting out how they were raised. They did a great job in many ways. Plus I have had the benefit of education and coming to parenthood at a "older" age. Yes, forgiveness on both sides. All in the past now. I am lucky also I can say "I'm sorry," and mean it. And I am always examining my behavior and trying to sweep out my cobwebby corners. It is all good. xo Jannie Funsters last blog post..In a nutshell

By: patricia

patricia — Sun, 08 Feb 2009 20:42:29 +0000

Diane,
Thank you for your good words and definitions…
I think emotions are a part of the READY….of conflict resolution as in Ready – Aim – Fire….

and with out expanding them our supply of Ready is greatly diminished..

Thank you for all you welcome comments

By: Diane

Diane — Sat, 07 Feb 2009 05:35:33 +0000

Discomfort- whem a situation arises where I am not in control of another persons action and they are acting angry and blowing up at me or someone else.
peaceful- when I feel at ease within me regardless of surrondings.

This is an interesting exercise.

I love the expansion of emotional words list. It defines the fine lines within us all. It gives greater useful language to express the feelings that can come up within our lives.

I love Jung too. I remember reading his work my first year in college. Freud was less than emotive to me but Jung engaged me fully and hit the mark for me on so many more levels. I love reading new works from others who were inspired by his work.

By: patricia

patricia — Fri, 06 Feb 2009 01:56:44 +0000

Jannie,
I think you must be a wonderful mom and how smart you were to figure out that you needed to break the cycle – and then breaking it. I love Ginnot’s book too and keep reading and learning as I want to keep connections and communications good between my adult children and myself.

Kelly is just a reflection of your joy and loving care, wrapped up in your lovely parenting.

Thank you for the good song!

I heard a Counselor say one time “when we know better and do better, those are the best life lessons, but it takes learning what is better to do better.”

Made sense to me…and then there is forgiveness …

By: Jannie Funster

Jannie Funster — Fri, 06 Feb 2009 00:59:22 +0000

Coming from a home where hitting was the norm every day and my parents still to this day (and I am not dishonoring them, but telling facts,) see nothing wrong with that kind of "communication." I have managed to break the cycle of physical and emotional abuse. I knew as teen if I ever had a child there would be no way I'd hit them. (Except when Kelly was 3 and 4 respectively I did slap her on the butt, which terrified me. But I forgave me and went on.) I have read a LOT of books on parenting, my favorite being Haim Ginnot's "Between Parent & Child," and I continue to seek inspiration and tips, dealing with my anger has been my biggest challenge. I accept it and let it pass. As time passes I generally feel better and better about being a mom. Kelly goes to a nice peaceful school too, where there is no hitting. Speaking of whom, I'm going to join her now for her TV show! Jannie Funsters last blog post..Kalyani’s Magic Fuzzy Pants

By: patricia

patricia — Thu, 05 Feb 2009 22:10:25 +0000

Sara,
Yep I think we were on the same wave link this week in our posts.
I enjoyed your writing on Davina’s blog too.

Yes communications with full connections – great word as we throw it around a bit it might makes it’s own shorter version?

Thanks

By: Sara

Sara — Thu, 05 Feb 2009 21:32:28 +0000

Patricia, Someone on Davina's blog mentioned that you and I were of like minds about our recent posts. I really enjoyed this one. I loved when you said, "Emotions are our early warning systems and twitter messengers of what we are thinking." I'm thinking of your challenges. So far I can only come up with a made up word. Mine is "connectversations," meaning those special conversations you have with someone where you really connect with each other. I know it's kind of long...I'll have to work on that! Saras last blog post..A Facebook challenge with a twist!