Comments on: I Request the Honor of your Comments

By: Patricia

Patricia — Fri, 06 Mar 2009 02:01:35 +0000

Kay,
You do very well and I like receiving all your thoughts for your Sunday group..

Tonight I am having big time trouble with my email…well all day..
so I had to sneak around and find you…
Hope you are doing well.

This is another part of my series on compassionate communication – and NVC…
welcome, welcome and thank you again for your lovely words

By: Kay

Kay — Thu, 05 Mar 2009 18:30:45 +0000

So often (most times) I read your essays and have a thousand phrases run through my head….but I do not respond via a written comment. Your headline touches me Immensely. Of course, you want the honor of our comments. Comments from me would require a lot of editing on my part to be other than a litany of how many ways I admire you…would need editing to be on topic. I’ll try to do better.

By: Patricia

Patricia — Thu, 12 Feb 2009 01:27:05 +0000

Kim,
Good idea and make it very fun for her to assist you in meeting your needs for order and harmony….it really works and is so respectful….

Then next think about are you blaming her for the mess? so she passes that on to the kitty? Or could the socks have gotten left on the couch because there was so much fun going on or learning how to play shoe store…it was just learning creative results of a day of fun? Being that observer is so crucial and invite her to remember how it might have happened – turn it into a story telling event ….blame – blame comes out demand – demand and then it could escalate into quite a confrontation – We don’t want that?

Go for the connection…heart to heart and then the learning about how the order comes next…mind to mind communication

But by all means have a whale of a good time and keep it fun

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By: Patricia

Patricia — Wed, 11 Feb 2009 21:34:13 +0000

Kay, Nice to find your comments here...Yes NVC is just such a good resource. Walt Whitman is once of my favorites and your topic with your gathering must have been very fun! Thank you for coming by Patricias last blog post..A Romantic Day by Myself

By: Kay

Kay — Wed, 11 Feb 2009 20:45:27 +0000

NVC is a great technique! I appreciate your reminders. Communication is not foremost on my mind today; however I respect your title o/a please comment. This coming Sunday, the topic I introduce to UUs is Walt whitman, his gospel of joy and especially joy in sexuality. What a topic for a bunch of Havasu seniors!

By: Kim Woodbridge

Kim Woodbridge — Wed, 11 Feb 2009 18:51:27 +0000

I’ll have to try this with my daughter – I get so aggravated sometimes about her stuff being all over the place. I’ll have to say I see socks on the couch, toys in the hall, etc … what are we going to do about this? Though she’ll probably tell me the kitty did it.

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By: patricia

patricia — Wed, 11 Feb 2009 03:06:01 +0000

Jannie,
Very nice…good beginnings…very respectful way to get everyone’s needs met

By: Jannie Funster

Jannie Funster — Wed, 11 Feb 2009 02:16:38 +0000

I have learned a little trick from Kelly's school philosophy. "I see socks on the floor and dishes on the coffee table. What can we do about this? (Her answer.) "And would you be willing to help me with this?" I guess that's along those lines? Jannie Funsters last blog post..In a nutshell

By: patricia

patricia — Tue, 10 Feb 2009 20:23:10 +0000

Patricia – SJOL,
Good luck to you those Leo lions are a tough act sometimes! It is worth it and sugar is such a much better introduction to a new idea!

By: Patricia - Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker

Patricia - Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker — Tue, 10 Feb 2009 20:02:59 +0000

Thanks. I learned a long time ago that asking gets much better results than demanding. My husband is just taking a little longer to get the message. I always handle him gently. He is a Leo with a big ego. Sugar always works better than vinegar. I don't mean that as a manipulation. I always believe in compromise in a relationship. I love my lion and want him to be happy. He can be really intense sometimes. Patricia - Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworkers last blog post..Kindness---Why Is It Easier To Be Kind To Strangers?