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Trust Your Spaghetti Sauce

The sun broke through the marine air very early this morning and I was caught without my sunglasses on and a flood of tears; a blindness that overtook me.   Now in a tangle of deer fencing net, I cast around in my sightless clumsiness to become unencumbered and retrieve my spectacles.  I was not afraid that I could not find release because I have been in this position numerous times in my life, and I was not angry that I had not had the foresight to plan ahead because I was being efficient and getting my tasks done; I could not predict the sun’s burn off rate after such a cold night’s passage.   Relief was in sight and within achievement; it was just a neutral state of being.  I trusted myself and my ability to find a great outcome.

My youngest child is texting me and sending phone pictures as she is making dinner for her friend’s family, she is doing spaghetti sauce without a recipe, and is double checking to have me guess if the green pepper goes in the sauce or the salad, or if this picture shows too much chopped basil. Her friend’s Mother has made the sauce so many times that she knows what to buy at the store, what to add to make it her own and just how to size up the right amounts of spice for the desired outcome.    My kiddo believes she can make dinner for the family but doesn’t want to get caught up in making it not be as tasty an experience as the family is prepared to enjoy.  She has made a lot of dinners in her life, but she is out of practice and has not done this style of cooking before.  She does not fully trust herself but she has faith in her abilities.

When making change in your life, one needs to explore the realms of faith and belief in your ability to reach the desired outcome- be it vision or enjoyment.  If one has done the movements numerous times then the belief is quicker to come, it can feel like a “jump” decision (Please see archived post on how we make decisions and change)

I believe I need to examine my actions and beliefs many times during the day and double check if I am putting too much in to the moment or trusting my belief which no longer holds true.  It is part of living my daily journey with intentionality. It is becoming a form of prayer for me.

I want to share Mary Oliver’s Poem called In the Storm from her book Thirst as she clearly shares Nature’s story about faith, belief and outcomes – I am reminded by her incredible words with each reading.

What does her poem say to you about trust, faith and kindness?

In the Storm

Some black ducks
were shrugged up
on the shore.
It was snowing

hard, from the east,
and the sea
was in disorder.
Then some sanderlings,

five inches long
with beaks like wire,
flew in,
snowflakes on their backs,

and settled
in a row
behind the ducks —
whose backs were also

covered with snow —
so close
they were all but touching,
they were all but under

the roof of the duck’s tails,
so the wind, pretty much,
blew over them.
They stayed that way, motionless,

for maybe an hour,
then the sanderlings,
each a handful of feathers,
shifted, and were blown away

out over the water
which was still raging.
But, somehow,
they came back

and again the ducks,
like a feathered hedge,
let them
crouch there, and live.

If someone you didn’t know
told you this,
as I am telling you this,
would you believe it?

Belief isn’t always easy.
But this much I have learned —
if not enough else —
to live with my eyes open.

I know what everyone wants
is a miracle.
This wasn’t a miracle.
Unless, of course, kindness —

as now and again
some rare person has suggested —
is a miracle.
As surely it is.

~ Mary Oliver ~

2 Responses to “Trust Your Spaghetti Sauce”

  1. Patricia - Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker Says:

    Kindness is my lesson for 2009 and everywhere I look I find more miracles of kindness to remind me to be kind to others and to myself. Beautiful poem and article. Thanks for sharing them.

    Patricia – Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworkers last blog post..Kindness—Why Is It Easier To Be Kind To Strangers?

  2. patricia Says:

    Patricia,
    Thank you for commenting on this post and welcome here. Kindness is a miracle and I do so love this poem.